How to comfort your sibling?

My eldest brother has been depressed ever since he fought with our parents. For the context, he's gay and been living with his bf for quite some time and recently he comes back to our house just to get berated by our mom. He's open with his sexuality and I looked up to him for that, however, our parents especially our mother has old people mindset.

He's a kind person and gentle, never raised his voice but a week ago, for the first time ever, he raises his voice at our parents. And today, his bf called us siblings saying he been holed up in their room– eat and drink when needed.

He has a history of self-harm and I'm scared he doing it again, and losing him. He one of the reasons, us siblings still here despite the trauma our parents gave. But I don't know what to say to make him feel better, to make him realise that we accept him for who he is. I never good with words– but I think words is the most things he needs. So can you guys please give me advice on what to do at time like this?

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Mama_Agnus 01 09,2025

I think the best way to go about this is to let your brother know you're always on his side, and always support and love him. You already seem to care so much about him, so just be vocal and let him know your parents were being assholes (respectfully). reply

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Desgod 01 09,2025

You don’t need to worry about giving a big speech or saying the perfect thing. You already said some good starting points. That you accept him for who he is and you’re scared of losing him. I’d only add that you love him and support him no matter what and maybe tell him something you’d like to do or be with him for in the future. Ju...... reply

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yomi 01 09,2025

I’m not great at advice but I think it would depend on how your older brother is. Sometimes just letting him know that you are there for him and that you don’t care if he likes girls or boys, he’s still your brother. Just because your parents berated him doesn’t mean you will. Just being understanding and being a pillar he can lean on is m...... reply

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Nosequeponer 01 09,2025

Acceptance is the hardest part when it comes to terms of sexuality and self identity, specially if the people around you don't accept and support you as who you are, or what you like. The best way to show him that he does have support is to communicate all of the things you said abt him here, to him, tell him exactly that That no matter what you m...... reply

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Angelina the squirtmaster 01 09,2025

I was gonna say slap him... but I just read the entire thing and I believe that u should have a good talk with him and invite ur future brother in law over and just try ur best to make him lively and smiling again maybe get his fav stuff, make his fav food along w his man and just get sharp objects away from him...(I'm sorry but u get what i mean) ...... reply

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Wooloo 01 09,2025

Try visiting him, bring his favorite food or something to cheer him up. It might just be the little things that’ll bring him joy during the day reply

01 09,2025

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