friendship loss
Growing apart is the worst...idk how to cope with it. because I feel like our friendship matters more to me than it does to them... ╥﹏╥ I'm the one constantly messaging them, they never tell me anything anymore and I have to hear it from other people. Its like a funeral for someone who never died. I just want to be nonchalant about it.. but I can't pretend it doesn't hurt me.
And it's true that 9 times out of 10 friendships from highschool won't last after graduating.. but once upon a time I thought we were the exception to that.
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It's sad when this happens. It has happened to me as well quiet a lot. But what I've learned is that not every relationship lasts forever. Sometimes paths go different ways and it is what it. One thing that once we're is not anymore. It lives in the past and there it lasts. Yours dynamics changed not the importance of what you lived tougher. As hard as it is what has to be done is accept. Feel all your feeling, but don't become them.
As much as you may want to keep in touch with them a relationship is a two way thing. It doesn't matter how much you want it and how much you try if they don't want it as well it will all be in vain. I believe we should always try to get the ppl we like to stay close by, I believe it's valid to send the first massage but not forever. There's a limit to it, you should also value yourself and your company. If they don't want it anymore they shouldn't have it. Don't give yourself to those who don't see value in you.
Change is a natural course in our lives, we can be scared by it. It's okay. You'll be okay.
I have lost 98% people who I thought were friends. I have learnt this the hard way but accept the reality helps to get better faster. And in the long run you will meet new people, grow and bond with them.
I think its normal to feel so lost and somehow regret that the firendship you thought that wpuld last long, ended. But hey, on the bright side, at least you wont get yourself stuck with people who call themselves ur friend but fails to act like one. One thing that i learned about cutting people pff is that it also eliminates stress and unnecessary disappointments in life. Youll lose yourself once you start giving ppl TOO MUCH. I suggest that you should take a breather, and make new friends who will support you and be with you at your lowest. Having one TRUE friend outweighs a bunch of ppl u may call friends but doesnt treat u like one.
Anyway, its ok to feel sad and devastated about it! Take your time to process ur emotions while also prioritising your inner peace. Goodluck on yer life!!
i've learned to just deal with it yk as i grow old i just realised we aren't really aligned as a person,like u just have different perspective on life ,,,,and people's personalities change over the time and sometimes that change isn't always welcoming
i've learned to just deal with it yk as i grow old i just realised we aren't really aligned as a person,like u just have different perspective on life ,,,,and people's personalities change over the time and sometimes that change isn't welcoming
it's always difficult at first when reality hits you... even though you want to learn from this experience it still hurts. You see, what I've learned from things like this is that you need to focus with your "self" first. Try to look into other perspective like think in a way that makes you see both you and your friends in the wilderness trying to survive. It may seem easy but it's hard, so for now, try thinking about the lessons of life you've learned together and the happy moments you shared. Be grateful you encountered those people in your journey towards finding your "self"
Make sure to grasp friendships early in college, especially when your in common classes like level 100