18+ question about relationships.

Is it common for partners to fantasize about sex with other people while in a relationship? Is it okay? Would someone be an asshole or insecure for not wanting their partner to do that and even breaking up if they found out they did?

Example. A woman finds out her husband has threesome fantasies. Most people would say a fantasy isn’t always an actual want/plan to do it and it’s not the same as cheating, so it’s not a problem. If the woman is upset or leaves him she’d be an asshole. Is she?

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____ 04 09,2025

As far as I'm concerned, she's avoiding a red flag. Realistically, if people are approving of fantasies then things like emotional cheating don't exist and that also means that wanting to fuck your wifes sister is also alright once you only have the fantasy in your head. reply

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Jiyeonieya 04 09,2025

I mean why would you do that though lol? Your lover is RIGHT THERE! no problem with like celebrities or models cause that's just attraction. If its literally someone they know personally that's a no-no, it's surely emotional cheating but that's how most cheaters start lol. reply

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Desgod 04 09,2025

Ummmmmm it really depends on how this fantasy came up? And how it was communicated. There’s a big difference between having stray thoughts that something would be hot and actively planning it out and doing it in your mind. Like I’m assuming the husband is including the wife in the threesome fantasy? Or he put it out there that he just wan...... reply

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josefalaloca 03 09,2025

as you said, is a fantasy, is in the mind... and if the one with the fantasy (idea) doesn't communicate and acts alone the now idea, well that is not good; but if you have good communication, you should be confident in that link with the partner and you should be able yo talk it and look what the partner thinks... maybe will be "yeah! let's do it" ...... reply

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silent_wisp 04 09,2025

In my personal opinion, I think I’d only feel super uncomfortable with it if they were comparing me to this person, or if it was a person they could actually cheat on me with. For example, a coworker would be more concerning than like. A celebrity. And having the occasional thought is fine, it happens, but if it’s something they’re just freel...... reply

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Atys 04 09,2025

I don't know if I'd call her an asshole. Definitely insecure and overreacting, though. reply

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