Gay dad

My dad’s gay. lol. I’m 24 and he and my mom married and divorced within the year before I was born. They briefly kept in touch and then he married another lady in London and divorced her some ten or so years into their marriage. He then married another woman when I was 19– she was seven years younger—and guess what? They’ve divorced this year. Turns out they were separated since last December but I never knew because he didn’t say and he lives in Europe whilst me and my maternal family are in the Caribbean so I couldn’t have found out just like that but I’d always kind of known and before he’d even remarried the third time I mentioned it to my mom and she was pissed. I was seventeen and sent a pic of me and my friend where we were hugging each other really tightly and he said that we were a cute couple or some shit—now I didn’t know he was progressive like that (Caribbean islands are hella conservative and at that point in time we were having like seven conversations a year that didn’t involve him giving me my allowance) so it came as a shock to me that he was so immediately okay with the idea that his kid would be lesbian. I’m not but I immediately started really thinking on it; the idea that he’d be more sexually fluid than the average Caribbean bred man. My mother was 21 when she had me and so was my dad and they were only together for a year or something but imo he was the best she ever did (at least in the looks department and he’s really charming) so I guess me telling her that dad might actually be into men kinda rubbed her the wrong way cause ‘what do you mean my first husband was just using me as a beard???’

I’m aware that being Bi exists but he just wasn’t giving that vibe. Point is that I’d been saying that dad might be into men for years until it comes out last week that since January he’d been living with a “pal’ from the British army and then divorced his third wife in June, went on vacation to Monaco with said pal and only told us cause mommy called him about paying for my tuition and where he wasn’t didn’t have a credit union. I immediately started digging (sue me) and found the pal’s facebook page. They’d been jet setting since feb or so and in a lot of pictures they’re hugging or sharing a pint or a meal. That wasn’t enough proof though till I texted my cousin living near dad in London and found out that third wife and dad separated cause she found him drunk and crying STRADDLING PAL’s LAP on Christmas NIGHT. It was crazy. My cousin (29 M) heard it all from third wife and she said it looked as if she was moments away from seeing them straight up fuck on the linoleum. They weren’t kissing or anything but I guess seeing your husband straddling a man’s lap on Xmas night while he thinks you’re out of town and crying incoherently about something seems wack. Not to mention dad’s excuse when he got caught was that the pal was a close friend and that’s why he was comfortable doing that but yet… if he was such a close friend, why wasn’t he at their wedding? Turns out he was dads best man for his second though……

Any whooo I just wanted to share the drama cause I’ve got no one who isn’t family to tel and I find it funny that my mother is denying it so hard she’s practically renounced gay ppl.