What do you think about waiting till marriage? I’m a virgin and I’m turning 24 in a couple of weeks and have never had a partner. Initially I grew up in a religious household so ‘no sex before marriage!’ was kinda THE slogan for young girls and my parents were both strict on the ‘no dating during secondary school’ thing too. By the time I was eighteen and out of secondary school, I was too busy and quite uninterested in relationships. That was until my two closest friends up and lost theirs three years ago and I’ve hidden the fact that I haven’t lost mines either because I feel like I’d be ridiculed or whatever I guess? They both did say that they regret losing their virginity but I think it was more to do with the person they lost it to instead of the act itself. There’s no one in my life but I was online chatting with a man I might’ve liked a lot and the question of whether I was virgin came up so I was honest and said yes…. He asked ‘why?’ And I kind of didn’t have an answer? My default was always that I wanted to wait till married but deep down I don’t think that’s it really? But then again based on my friends experiences maybe that’s the way to go? On top of that I feel like men of my age bracket wouldn’t exactly want a woman that isn’t experienced or at least has had one experience because I’ve heard a lot that men find women that are virgins to be a ‘tedious lay’. I’m afraid that by the time I find someone that I love and want to be with that this little thing might hinder things?? Idk. I’m highkey afraid actually and I can’t ask my real friends for advice because they think I’m not a virgin anymore. My plan isn’t really a plan and I don’t think I have the guts to do it but what about the idea of just getting it out of the way with a stranger? I need some genuine advice and I’ve never felt so helpless in my fucking life.
