How long does someone typically grieve for a spouse?

I mean, I know queen victoria did a 40 years, but how long is it for someone not looking to set a record? Like, how long does the whole unwilling to do anything new/resume life part last?

it's been 3 years and I'm starting to worry that I should've really gotten my mom to go to therapy and all, but i didn't want her to think i was just pawning her off on someone cuz i didn't want to deal with her or anything, but I really don't know how I can bring her out of her current state and it's like every time i talk to her, her memory's reset and she's right back to what she used to blaming herself and going over the same stories. She's lost touch with her friends and her relatives all pretty much tried to scam her out of what little we got from what dad left behind, so it feels like I'm the only one she even opens up to at this point. I've tried talking, introducing her to hobbies, cleaning out the house, taking her on trips, encouraging her to go back to work - nothing works. I just want to know how much longer it will take before she pulls herself together.

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blonk 17 hours

Everyone grieves differently but it honestly sounds like your mom might have depression. She might never get over your dad but if she gets help, maybe she'll be able to find joy in life again reply

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FuckedMyWayUpToTheTop 15 hours

She might have what is called complicated grief. It's a prolonged type of grief that persists in intensity for a long period of time and affects every possible area of the affected person's life. It has the typical presentation of depression, it can even turn into suicidality, just like regular depression. You seem to be parentified in the situati...... reply

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Desgod 15 hours

I do think therapy would be a great choice for your Mom. Kinda sounds necessary in fact. A death usually comes with some kinda trauma but it really sounds like she might be experiencing some PTSD about it. I know you said you’ve tried talking to her but you didn’t say what those conversations entailed. But I do think you should continue t...... 1 reply

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How long does someone typically grieve for a spouse?

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