Adulting is Scary
People often say that "Age is just a number", but for me, I want to disagree with that phrase. I am now in my 20s and ever since I entered the age of 20, it feels like my life has been set on a ticking bomb.
In your 20s, you're expected to already know everything. In your 20s, you're expected to already achieve something. In your 20s, you will face with many expectations from around you.
"Everyone has their own pace", I want to believe that, but the reality is not that kind. It's like society always set deadline for you to reach a certain goal on a certain age and if you didn't meet that deadline, everybody will judge you.
As I getting older, I getting even more anxious as I haven't achieve anything yet nor be someone that I expected to be. I see people around me has their life figured out and I'm right here still wondering, "When will I finally make it? Am I in right path right now?". Everyday just filled with uncertainty, almost every day keep questioning myself.
I'm afraid to become a failure.
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Sorry for the long reply, I really wanted to write something for you but somewhere in the the middle it also became a sort of self-reflection for me. ┗( T﹏T )┛
I've been feeling that way since my teens. And even now that feeling plagues me.
I've never been honest with myself and have been going along with the flow.
I like people but I'm also severely anti-social. And, yes, cutting ties with society has made it difficult for me to live in it.
I'm trying to improve myself now but that means I had a late start than others.
I don't have any achievements that others my age are expected to have.
Social media brings on another whole pressure.
It's not pleasant having your peers judge you especially when you, yourself are feeling unsure.
Besides everyone doesn't want to follow the same path.
Just because everyone is doing the same thing doesn't mean the select few who don't want to have to suffer.
Just think about their life and where they are coming from.
Is it the same or most likely than not, different?
Are they speaking with an understanding of where YOU came from?
If NO, I don't let it bother me.
YES, then I try to discern their intentions, like, worry?
Even if you fail along the way.
Even if society calls you a failure.
As long as you continue to worry and work on yourself.
I believe you're not a failure.
It takes a lot of spirit to keep going, y'know?
It takes a lot to wake up, eat, do chores, study, work, and just go about your daily life.
I've begin to feel better and confident after blocking everything out and just focusing on the progress I've made, no matter how small.
No comparison with others
Notice the little changes within myself.
Believe that with time, it'll culminate to bring me at least a little closer to my ideal.
A little closer to finding out what I want.
Thank you for saying something really reassuring(T^T), this is something that i think i really need to hear <3
Fr I feel like everyone else has it down and I’m over here struggling on the most basic adulting things its makes me feel actually stupid sometimes I don’t feel ready for the real world
When we move out how are we automatically suspossed to know how taxes and credit scores work it doesn’t make it sense to me
Adulting really doesn't make sense...
Tbh, "age is just a number" is just a saying that pedophiles main echo. It's pretty known at every age in life you will be in a different place, have certain experiences, different thought process, more learning and understanding life. so i have never thought people would say "age is just a number" for our general knowledge and path in life, because it's clearly wrong.
I'm in my early twenties, and i feel exactly like you. I stress about if im behind everyone who's the same age as me. I worry about my knowledge in classes for my career or about the world in general. I guess it's a universal feeling for people in their twenties, we're still growing. Nature carries everyone at their pace.
I hope soon we can all finally shake this feelings off and live without any worries anymore