How do i become a better person?

I am actually so disgusted of myself, i genuinely wanna be a better person. I've tried so hard but i keep circling back to the same self centered bitch ☹ I js wish i could js not give a fuck abt others so much that it feels like my heart is a bomb that'll blow up hurting everyone even if it means I'll be hurting myself the most, i keep wanting to be appreciated for what i put my effort into, i keep thinking only of what I've done in a group setting and undermining what others have contributed, i keep getting jealous of everyone and i always end up making them think they're not all that, when THEY ARE. I know that i should learn to appreciate myself and what i have more but what do i do about this craving to make myself be better than everyone else? And tbh im not even all that bad, i get good grades, have a good amount of extracurriculars, enough skill in what i do to be considered better than average, but i still keep wanting what others have. I rlly wish i can stop this bullshit im doing. Are these feelings of mine that i think of as complex actually js a facade for childish feelings to comfort this demon in me or are my feelings actually as valid as i hope they are

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whatevermans 18 hours

There is nothing wrong with you, relax! So what if you want to be better than everyone else? That doesn't make you a bad person. Someone from your past probably said some bullshit to you about being bad or selfish or both. Fuck this, you're good and you are allowed to care about yourself first reply

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Wooloo 18 hours

Maybe.. learning how to be humble?? I mean from what I’m hearing you already believe that you’re better then the people you know, but it sounds like they’re are still lingering insecurities you are facing and maybe that’s why you don’t feel comfortable in your own skin. It’s the constant comparisons between yourself and your friends wit...... reply

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轻轻落下来的叶子 17 hours

there are always going to be people who are better than you. if it's not the person next to you, it'll be your coworkers. if not them, you'll look at all the people on TV and think to yourself, "man why do they get xxxx things? what makes me so different from them?" The only person you should compare to is yourself and your own happiness, because...... reply

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Leori 16 hours

If you feel like you are about to explode, you are probably bottling up your feelings. Try to express them in some way: painting, writing, singing, acting or just buying a journal to vent. See a psychologist if you can just to learn how to express yourself properly and see if what you are feeling is true or if you have self hatred. Good luck! Don't...... reply

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Desgod 13 hours

:Warning this is long: and the spacing got f’ed. I’m going to echo others by re-confirming that self awareness is always the first step. Self reflection is not something everyone can do. Tbh, and not to downplay your very real, very valid feelings but this fluctuating of thoughts and emotions sounds like hormones. Meaning that these extremes ...... reply

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yeah 17 hours

you could try something like a regular gratitude journal but for other ppl's good points;; like writing "It's nice that Mary always shows up early and sets the table up for lab" or "Jane does awesome in verbal presentations and she fixed her references completely";;; but also it's totes normal to want validation or be competitive, just focus it on ...... reply

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