Have you experienced friend not responding after vent
I'm not the type of person to always vent to people so when I do, you can tell that what I'm going through really hurts. It was my first time venting to that friend (it wasn't out of nowhere, I looked hurt and cried irl too) and after sending a long message they left me on seen until I just decided to delete it. This happened twice, the only time they replied was when the long msg was about me comforting them for feeling things abt my situation. I looked it up before posting here and saw on quora that people who leave you on seen like that when you clearly need comfort or help are not really your friends because if they were they'd care enough to even offer words of comfort. So like... Idk.. I have no friends I can lean on for support rn at all because the person I'm having a fight with is pulling them all to her side (this person is diff from the one I'm venting to btw) I honestly don't know how she can laugh everyday knowing she's hurting me, when I've always been there for her even at her lowest reputation, when she was hated by everyone, when I was hated by others just bc I was friends with her, whenever she got sick I was the one who took care of her and assisted her, when she was depressed I was the one always by her side and accompanied her everywhere so that she won't feel alone. It's so clear that she doesn't care about me at all because how can you still give me the cold shoulder when you know you're hurting me this much? Btw our fight happened just because I suggested that she doesn't paint the board during our event festival because the paper she stuck on it already looked good and she got angry so she ripped it apart. Nonsensical right??Her reason is so fucking unjustifiable to the way she's treating me rn when all I did was make a suggestion she didn't like meanwhile I've always been there for her through everything.
Wtf, why are some of you so damn insensitive?? Babe, don’t even mind those replies telling you to “just go to therapy” and all that. Not everyone has the money or luxury to do that , you don’t know what someone’s situation is or what they’re going through. If you don’t have something kind to say, then shut the fuck up, respectfully.
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you shouldn’t have deleted your text, even if she left you on read for days or weeks, fuck her you just needed comfort. did you try to tell her exactly how she hurt you? like talking to her about the fact that you don’t feel like she cares enough about you? and why she left you on read that time ? 1 reply
Don’t vent to people unless they’ve said it’s okay. Go to the therapist and vent there, people don’t have a responsibility o be your therapist. Everybody has their own life and problems 5 reply
I'm sorry, but I need a lot more information than just this.
1. How long did they leave you on read?
2. If you're alright with it, could you... expand on the nature of what you were venting to them? You don't need to be that specific, but I do need to know how sensitive it is.
3. Could you give a more clear explanation as to what the fight was a...... 1 reply
The person you tried to vent to. They could be bad at texting and responding. And/or be overwhelmed by what you’re feeling.
I don’t know how long you gave them to respond to your texts. That’s kinda an important point.
But the fact that they responded when it came to getting comfort for THEIR feelings about YOUR feelings….red flag.
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Aint reading a lot im just gonna based my answer on title.
Yes, to be specific i will not say anything after my friend vent, reason why? I dont know how to response, im too aware if im saying making it worse or like smth 1 reply
Ngl i read some of your other replies and i think ur friend (one u fought with) straight up doesnt like u anymore/ is annoyed by you
It could be something else ofc but she kind of strikes me as a person whos afraid to be alone and feels like she needs someone who will never leave her, she might be shitty and constantly drop you bc she knows you'll ...... reply
uhm well, usually when my friend vents to me and it's a heavy topic, i take my time to respond to them, sometimes i even take a whole day before i could respond because I know i can't just say anything, so i reaaaally take my time to gather my thoughts and put myself in their shoes and think about their feelings before I say anything. Of course i d...... reply
LOOOONG UPDATE
Just updating y'all since I also saw someone say we only know one side of the story. I went to the councilor today since I really have no one to talk to in our circle. I don't want to force anyone to be there for me and listen to me so I just went there. I told her what happened and it unexpectedly brought out more emotions in me th...... reply
I feel your pain - it’s hurtful to be ignored after being vulnerable and looking for comfort. At the same time, you never know what others are going through and not everyone is able to give you comfort when you need it or ask for it. Your friends ignoring you might not even be personal - they could be dealing with things themselves that make it h...... reply
