am I problematic

I have friends that I genuinely want to succeed in life and get happy when they tell me good stuff that happens to them because I really value them and they treat me amazing when I need them, and I have friends who I'm less close to that I just can't feel genuine happiness for when they tell me similar stuff (I mean I feel that they aren't as kind to me as my other friends asw so idk if that's part of the reason why)

Is it weird that I have these kind of inside thoughts towards any of my friends at all and have differentiating treatments to them? Idk if it's fair to say that this has happened because I just genuinely feel better around the friends I want to genuinely succeed in life when the friends who I can't feel like that with don't even treat me badly. To an extent it's not about how they treat me but I just feel more comfortable with some people than others, I can't force myself to like some people bc of certain aspects but does that mean I'm problematic for these thoughts or do u guys get that too? Should I be cutting people out from my life if it's just problematic inside thoughts I have about them? I don't actually treat anyone differently on the outside due to them tho(I'd say so anyw)

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seabi 12 hours

then we’re all problematics if you think this way 1 reply

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Desgod 10 hours

Definitely problematic. Unhinged menace to society~ Lock your doors. Hide your wives. Hide your children. Hide your husbands. Hide your 14” bad dragon cocks~ 1 reply

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pyschosimp 12 hours

to clarify I don't go 'oh damn I hope that goes shit for you' in my head I just don't get that same level of genuine happiness towards some friend's experiences as I do with others, I still celebrate them just on varying levels of genuineness ?? reply

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轻轻落下来的叶子 12 hours

This isn't problematic. You're just not close to them. There is nothing in the world that says you have to feel happy for people you aren't close to when something good happens to them. Do you care about the random woman in the cafe? If she suddenly cheered for getting a job, do you really care? No. Most people don't care. And also, will a fri...... 1 reply

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yeah 12 hours

no 2 reply

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Atlas 11 hours

Nothing wrong with this at all. The closer you are to someone, the more their "happy/sad" feels like your own! the farther you are from a person, the more their "happy/sad" feels like a separate feeling. It has nothing to do with being genuine. You can be 100% genuine with both, but feel your own emotions stronger with the people you are close to. ...... 1 reply

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