tips for relationship again

hope this helps anybody else, this isn't related to certain posts but anyone who needs this

how to break up with someone who's done nothing wrong:

Before you break up:

- Make sure your partner knows you're not happy and why. Give each other a chance to make it work. By doing this, it's also won't come as a complete surprise. Be sincere in your attempt to make it work.

Where to break up:

Generally you should pick a private location, where your partner feels safe. However if your partner is emotionally or physically abusive, then you should pick a public location.

- Please try not to break up in a text because the other person could be doing something and they can be stressed. This person may not be able to respond as well as they can, unless this relationship is online.

Figure out any logistics. Do you have to move, if so to where? Are there items that need to be split?

Prepare yourself for deep emotions from both sides.

Let your close friends know beforehand, that way they can be there to support you

While you break up:

Start straightforward. Be emphatic, but make it very clear from the start. Say something like "This is hard and it hurts me and I know it hurts you, but I can't be in this relationship any more."

Explain why you want to break up. Don't turn it into a blame game, try to find a middle ground, if possible. Later your partner is going to look for reasons, If you give good honest reasons, you make that process easier.

Don't change your mind.

If they beg, know that someone shouldn't have to beg. Trust you made the right decision.

If they get angry, stay calm. Understand that it's a response to pain.

If they become sad, show empathy, say that you know you've hurt them, apologize for doing this to them.

If they promise to change, remember, you already tried this in the previous phase. It didn't work then, it's not going to work now either.

After breaking up:

Tell your friends and family right away. It's common to feel alone after breaking up, your friends and family can soften the blow for you.

Make sure you sleep at least 7 hours every night. Exercise, keep an eye on your food intake. Don't numb yourself with alcohol and drugs.

If you regret your decision, give yourself time to be certain. You didn't just decide this overnight, so don't run back to. Whatever made you decide this in the first place more than likely won't be resolved. Block your ex on social media, at least for now. Maybe in some time, you can look at your ex again, but for now it's better to stop looking. If you can't bring yourself to do that, at the very least hide their updates.