WHY IS DATING SO FULL OF LUST NOW??

I'm just asking cus like I added random ppl in fb out of boredom which huge mistake ig buuut not even a hi or hello, it's already sex talk I may have lots of exes but what happened to us were mostly natural, crushes and boom. Relationships. I'm just like mad suprise about this cus is this what's dating now?? Cause this isn't it... I may be childish or too idk living in fantasy to say this but i want the stupid poems back and or flowers, or basically all that cutesy stuff. Yall need to start slow and not head to that stage immediately I'm just saying.