Healthy vs unhealthy relationships

Deep thoughts, and maybe lessons for some who will read.

When I interviewed people regarding yk toxic manhwas and it's affect on people I often find these same qoutes from people.

"I thought it was love"
"I didn't know how to handle it"
"I left things for them"

There are like a ton of things we sometimes do, out of love for someone. Sometimes those actions are regretful. Trends like "dark/rough romance" had made people blind on what is a "healthy relationship". Leading to people dealing with shitty partners or being one. It was really wholesome to hear their whole stories and how they got out of it and found someone better. Not all ends happily, some are unfortunate to suffer with mental disorders. Depression, bpd, npd, anxiety and many more.

A relationship is good if it's a give and take, it means you don't have to only do the efforts, do all the work, taking the iniative and gifting. You should be able to receive back too from your partner, or vice versa them receiving too. A partner who's willing to I mean make efforts to make you happy, whether expensive or simple like maybe some sort of sentimental value is a good partner. That's someone who truly loves you. They're willing to make you happy so don't settle for less.

With fights, now this is hard since its situational but usually if they wronged you they'll apologise for it and try to make it right if they truly felt sorry, not through gifts or whatever but through their actions. You'll know yourself. Now if it's you, tons of people makes mistakes and or emotions get the best of people. Point is, you're human. You learn and grow. It's kinda the way of life, really is.

Relationships has so so so much emotions within it and it's really important to know that you have a life outside of this relationship, this is talking about jealousy and some mistrust and fear of cheating. If there's kinda that, it's not rlly fully good. They or you are allowed to feel like that, not saying that it's wrong but honestly, if there's not enough trust within both, talk it out, someone shouldn't be this afraid of possibility of cheating. People should feel comfy enough to know their partner isn't going to betray them. It may come from a silly character but Patrick Star once said "Trusting you is my decision, proving me wrong is yours." hold onto that qoute.

There's always tons of ups and downs, that's why the good ones stay the longest. The amount of understanding, the forgiving and the whole journey in ones relationship. Is truly beautiful.

Okay Im having a writers block so that's it!