starting to dislike a friend
she’s 26 years old and still doing on and off with her ex. he’s literally an asshole but she keeps him around still. “i dont love him i just can’t stay away from him” it’s fucking stupid.
we have told her to cut him off. she lives in a country where she’s at the age of marriage and she has expressed how she feels depressed attending her own friends wedding yet she won’t try to explore better options. im not saying she has to, im just like if you want to get married too maybe cut off that asshole??!!
she always constantly bring him up too even though we all hate him. to me it feels like she’s trying to flaunt it? like the toxicity idk. the guy is literally a whore.
when everyone’s talking about working hard for concert tickets money. she’d go “um guys so should i ask my ex to buy it for me? he’ll do whatever i want” GIRL. free us.
i’ve never dated so im genuinely asking IS THIS NORMAL??!
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personally i'd start by weighing out how much i actually like this friend. do you value your relationship/do your other mutual friends value their relationships with this person. if not, keep your peace and cut them out. remember you're never obliged to deal with someone elses problems, especially when it seems she's putting in no attempt to work things out for herself. if you do want to remain friends with her however, sit her down (prolly don't do it over text), and talk to her about it. just say that you're sick of constantly hearing about this dude, that you're there for her if she needs help, blah blah blah. depending on her reaction and how she follows up you can then cycle back and see if you want to remain friends with her or not. :)
nooo i get u so bad. its so annoying how they always be complaining and then do the same mistakes, like do you WANT to be in a toxic relationship or what