Aromantic but also pansexual

I get you... I sometimes don't understand myself because I'm pretty sure I'm not asexual, but I am aromantic, and a lot of the time they seem to come as a pair. That doesn't mean they aren't different things. On top of which, the spectrum is so vast and still it's easy to feel like a fake. Just don't doubt your feelings and if putting a label on yourself feels stressful or uncomfortable, its always fine to go without! I guess that's the interesting thing about sexuality/romantic attraction, we're so obsessed with labelling everything even when the whole point of said labels is to identify outside of the binary and break norms. Anyway, your identity will always be valid, no matter what others say, because that's your authentic self. You can always dig into all the different ways to identify there are, and while aromanticism and asexuality can come together, they're not one size fits all. Go explore!

You might be demiromantic/demisexual in that case, which means you only fall in love once you feel that intimate trust snd love with somebody. It's not really talked about as, like you said, aro convos are usually about the aroace side of the spectrum, but I recommend looking into that! I'm demi myself and though I did feel like your post was relatable, do keep in mind that this could just be a step in the right direction and not necessarily the destination lol
(I'd also recommend looking into possibly being cupioromantic, lithromantic and/or recripromantic! These fall under similar categories that I felt myself feeling while trying to figure out what exactly I feel, so it might help you too lol)
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