IM SO GOOFY AH DRAMATIC crying cuz my bestie got a boyfriend
What am I 13?? I’m a full grown adult graduating from college next year (maybe?) and full on ugly sobbing because my best friend got an actual boyfriend..?? Am I like okay ..? Why I gotta be the most dramatic person on earth I got more important things to worry about why this ruining my day
I feel like a pos because I’m not happy for her literally my voice was breaking when on the phone when she was telling me about it and asking, I just said it’s your life I give her my honest opinion I don’t like him he was a boytoy to her and idk why they’re in a relationship now..? She says she’s tempted to cheat on him ?! i literally ran into them today i was lowkey not having it
Bro I’ve been begging her to make plans with me for the thing she canceled on and I saw her at said thing with this guy I was so mad,
I genuinely don’t know why I’m this upset I don’t think this is a normal reaction i I think i’m upset that little time we actually do spend is going to all go to her boyfriend
probably going to stop hanging out with me Ive had other issues with her in the past how she treats me but man tf is wrong with me lol
Is this normal probs not
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I think it's normal to feel emotional about any cherished relationships changing. You feel like you're losing someone you love, it's not surprising you'd cry. Be dramatic as you need to get your feelings out. And once you've calmed down, try talking to her about some of your concerns, hopefully this won't be the end you fear it is
Completely normal. You just haven’t processed the “why”, so ima try and help find it with you.
Your body is registering something in this situation as “danger” but not in a violence way, just in a way that can harm you.
Im going to assume this friend is pretty much your chosen family. Maybe you have issues with the people who raised you, if so then it’s possible that you may have associated relationships with negative emotions, ie maybe you spent less time with your sibling once they got a significant other. Maybe your parents neglected you for each other. This constant pattern then solidifies negative feelings towards people you love in relationships.
OR maybe your friend has a bad habit of losing interest in you to play with boys, and you’ve recognized this pattern so seeing them with a “boyfriend” is making your anxiety flare up. Now you think “she’s going to neglect me” or “she’s going to act different”.
Maybe he’s an actual danger to her? Idk. He could be a creep or a psycho. Highly doubt it tho.
Once you figure out WHY your body is stressed by her dating someone, then you can start to move forward.
If it’s because you’re scared you’ll lose her then I have one of two things to say.
1-a real friend won’t drop you for a boy. Talk it out and voice your feelings and fears without putting the blame on her. “I feel like we don’t hang out anymore” or “I miss you”
2- if she leaves you then fuck that shit. You don’t need the type of friend who chooses a boy they aren’t in love with over you. Fr dude.
Truth is, humans need anchors, things that keep them grounded that are constants. For some people it’s their families, for others it’s their friends or a pet, even a career can keep them feeling safe. If your friend is making you feel this uneasy then maybe you need to find a new thing to ground yourself?
Hobbies, literature, other people, look for something to distract you from this flakey friend.
You can do it.
And please. Never neeeever tell yourself your feelings are stupid.
Your emotions are how your body communicates with you, sometimes you might overreact or overthink but that’s ok. You’re an entire ecosystem of individual pieces working together. You need to be patient with yourself.
You deserve it.
Take some time to decompress,
It’ll be ok.
Ps ur friend sucks.
"Tempted to cheat" ????
Idk that’s what she tells me sometimes she sees herself not being faithful