friendship breakup..myb

girl. you gotta listen to me, i had the exact same bsf until a year ago when i said « no, it’s too much i don’t want to continue this one sided friendship ».

i cut contact with her because of how obnoxious it was getting, it’s LIFE DRAINING. alwyas about herself, she would never ask if i was okay or what was going on in my life. and if she ever did then she would immediately talk abt herself right away.

in the end, what choice did i have but to cut ties with her ? so i talked to her a bit before saying we should stop, this is going nowhere.

you don’t need to feel scared. you need to live with good people who actually care for you. i suggest you to try talking to her first, to tell her how you feel etc. you see how she responds, if she doesn’t want to take accountability, leave. never feel bad for leaving. sorry i’m in the hospital rn i can’t fully function so it may not make any sense lmao

DROP EMMMM

It depends on the person. Sometimes I just walk away, and a lot of the time, the other person won't really notice/ bring it up because you aren't a priority to them, in which case, you know you did the right thing to maintain distance. If I consider the relationship important to me, I try to talk about the situation with them. If their reaction is always denial and gaslighting, then I just cut them off. Keep in mind, sometimes, the unequal relationship might not be due to bad intentions. They might just genuinely be relatively shallow individuals, or just not feel that close to you, and that's the extent of the relationship, which is also good to know. In such cases, I consider whether it's worth keeping the relationship (sometimes I do in cases where there are a lot of common friends or their family is close with mine), if I choose to keep the relationship, then I just dial it back and maintain it as a 'group' relationship where we just hang out with other people and rarely contact each other directly.

Ultimately, a healthy relationship (friendship/ romantic/ familial) is one that makes the people involved into better people (emotionally/ mentally etc). If a relationship always leaves you drained, tense, bitter, or feeling like you are the only one giving anything, then it isn't worth keeping, and it's healthier to just cut them out of your life.

It's also important to be aware of what level your relationship actually is. I have a lot of acquaintances, but very few people I consider 'real' friends. My closest friends are the people I can be completely honest with, and who are completely honest with me. We support each other and are willing to go out of our way for each other. I also have a few people that I consider friends, but they are not my closest friends. I am not 100% myself with them, because they aren't as open-minded about some issues, but they are good people. We also support each other and go out of our way, but I wouldn't give them the shirt off my back, and I wouldn't expect them to do so either. Everyone else I consider at different levels of acquaintanceship to me.

Girls who are male centered don’t change and won’t ever make good friends - I went through something similar last year and now it’s been a year since we’ve talked. If she really wanted to change and be a good friend she would’ve reached out to you first. I ended up ghosting my ex bsf and later reached out during Christmas but regretted it after so then my second time ghosting her now it’s been a year and she’s yet to reach out lol. She never gave a f but so what we move on with our life’s and focus on ourself for the better.

ive been on the receiving end of this for different reasons and I think in your case, with your discription of it, it is reasonable to go forward with the breakup with the toll it
s taking on you

but definitely address why and communicate with them.....