I'm a single mother does this guy liked me or just wanted to be friends?
Hi, I had recently talked to a guy I known for a long time and right off the bat he made sexual messages to me, flirting but then go and say he just wants to be friends. I know he liked me when we were younger and he said yes to it. He would ask me questions about my ex-husband but he would be quiet and say it's better to talk about his ex in real life. We agreed to meet on a certain day but he didn't warn me at all that he couldn't come. I forgaved him for it and asked if there's something serious here. I understand not wanting to take things a little serious further however I'm confused because of how he'd tell me he'd take me to his room and "watch Netflix" with him alone.
I let my friends view the messages and they said "he seems like he just wanted to be friends. " They didn't see the whole convo but I kept thinking to myself have I just took things too fast? I'm desperate for a love life and haven't been doing well. I want my kids to also have a healthy father figure in their life, I don't want my ex-husband because he was emotionally abusive to me. It's been years since I've been single. I've been longing for love for so long but held it off to take care of my kids first until they're old enough to be able to handle themselves home alone.
yea sorry op but he js wna fuck :/ men like him js wna take advantage of ur situation since he prolly thinks ure vulnerable enough to fall into his trap. he sounds nd acts like a fkn douche, nd u deserve better. from now on, pay no mind to that guy. i wish u the best 1 reply
This man definitely doesn't like you and I doubt he "just" wants to be friends.. it seems like he just makes sexual comments towards you which is usually a bad sign from the start + he stood you up?? I'm sorry about your ex husband but I'd avoid this guy at all costs. I don't think he wants to be friends, just seems like he's trying to toy with you...... reply
It honestly sounds like he just wants sex with no strings attached... I'm not trying to tell you what to do but if you really want genuine love, this doesn't sound like it. A man who actually likes you will communicate properly with respect, and would not jump into sexual messages, despite knowing you for a long time. Don't worry and take things ea...... reply
As a single mother, I too struggled with this. However I took some courses to further my education and came to understand that this behaviour is typical of a manipulative narcissist. He gives you just enough attention to get you on his hook then pulls the rug out from underneath you to see how far he can push you.
I’m not telling you what to do...... reply
Seems like he knows you are emotionally vulnerable and is trying to take advantage of that. I could be making assumptions here but as you said "We agreed to meet on a certain day but he didn't warn me at all that he couldn't come" WHILE YOU"RE NOT EVEN TOGETHER shows he isnt taking a relationship with you seriously at all.
Im proud that you want...... 1 reply
He is looking for a lay with minimum effort, and tries his chance with you as he considers you as easy prey.
This type of low budget playboys are everywhere.
Don't fall for his traps 2 reply
Girl, this man is not ready to commit. He is in it for the fun, the flirting. This is the not the type of man you would like to be your kids’ father figure. reply
Look my answer will seem little harsh but you have to work on yourself and be close to your kids
Bc bring someone close to your kids can bring yes happiness or disaster so before bring anybody to your life you have to value yourself and be 100 % sure of any personne
You have to ignore this guy bc it's seem like to be a waste of time 1 reply
I just smell manipulation. I agree with everyone in these comments. This is all red flags. I agree with the people saying he wants sex with no strings attached. Please don't fall for all his empty words and put distance. Especially if you think you could be weak and fall for what he says. Doesn't seem like it would be a meangful relationship regard...... reply