Why are Asians so obsessed with family validation
Idk if I'm just a hater but as a person from India (heavy family glorifying country btw) almost every show I come across has the "power of family love" trope where ur family is the no 1 priority and their kid leaves their relationship to realize "I only need my family" I realize some people have loving families
And also how "well, they're your parents" is an excuse to just accept wtv bullshit they throw at you. Family this family that, it's so annoying they're seen as angels or people with power who have absolute control over you
i also hate how in many shows unless the parents cheat, neglect ther kid and physically abuse them they're not problematic enough for the child to leave them. Like haven't any of these people heard of mental abuse and manipulation? Why is the child expected to forgive their parents for alot of bullshit things they do? This is heavy on Asian shows.
Oh and don't get me started on how normalized beating up your kid is, even in Asian stereotypes. I never found it funny how hitting your kid with a belt is supposed to make you laugh and how in so many shows the parent literally beats up the kid for dating someone or for some absurd reason.....
Conditional love is so normalized, like you could have not given birth to me in the first place if you wanted me to do what you want me to do in MY future to be deemed useful and "worthy" of your love.
That's just how sad our culture is. Not indian, but half Chinese and Filipino and that's the worse combo of "family is everything!!"... I'm just fortunate enough to actually have a loving family, but it's rlly annoying for me to witness it irl and everyone makes the child the bad person for actually standing up for themselves.
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im not asian but im african so im not sure if its the same situation for you guys, but this could be a possible explanation: many of our parents lived their lives the way they did because of a sense of ‘duty’ that they felt they owed to their parents. A lot of our parents didnt necessarily have kids because they wanted to, but bc they felt they......
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Have you considered that there’s nuance in parent-child relationships and it’s hard for children to abandon their parents.
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it definately needs a long answer but im too lazy to type so im gonna write bullet pts.
* historically, most agrarian countries are the ones which have more "familial" values and even "joint family" culture. keep ur relatives closer thing. bc if in history, ur family life depends on farms, living in group means no dividing of farms. disputes would......
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its bc they raise us to be emotionally dependent on them and human nature is also really okay with that it happens yada yada but what it rlly is just politics almost all of the monotheist and or celestial religions push the idea that the foundation of family is important hence they curse the idea of homosexuality refering to it as a “fruitless r......
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Ig this how all asian household are. The family honor is everything and you must not talk back to the elders blah blah... I used to get really scared of disappointing my parents, especially my mother. I don't know why or how but it's like wired into my brain.
"Anything you do great is what you should be doing and anything bad is punishment. " My......
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its a generational thing. your grandparents raised your parents the same way and there was no internet back then so their own experiences were their only reference to parenting.
im grateful i actually have a loving family but i know a lot of people who has the same "typical asian family" experiences and it's saddening whenever i heard their storie......
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Cause the parents only show love for their kids when they have good grades etc. so from an early age u know u are only valuable to them if you fit into that box. And surprise surprise... As a kid growing up, u only know ur family. It's the people u spend more time with. It's normal to want to be loved by them. But this doesn't happen in just asian ......
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