Jealousy in bl

istg every time one character gets jealous it goes one of two ways: it's a female relative or they both start feeling jealous at the same time so the whole arc just ends with "n-no uwu i felt jealous too" I WANT SOMETHING NEW! I guess toxic yaoi has the possessive jealousy that just ends in rape but that's garbagio. i want one person feeling jealous and the other person having to navigate their outside relationships differently OR (even better) they figure out how to make a system where the one that feels jealous can communicate that and get comfort from their cutie pie bubble gum drop, okay? every jealousy arc ends with something way too convenient that keeps them from actually learning anything and progressing as a couple.