is my parents being too much
they call me everyday. sometimes twice a day. it's not like we talk a lot. besides asking "have you eaten yet?" "where's the others?" the call will be spent in silence.
if I'm busy to answer, like when I'm with my friends, they'd insist to be on the phone, intruding whatever me and my friends are doing. it's uncomfortable and a bit embarrassing. im not the type to go out and do bad stuff like drugs, partying, sex etc and I doubt they're worried about that's since they know how muchs of a loser I am.
and no I'm not gonna ask them to call less cuz I know my mom will take it personally. she will make comments about being ungrateful yada yada and also about why I don't want to talk to her and she will feel bad. and then I'd feel guilty for being a piece of shit child for establishing boundaries.
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she’s manipulating you emotionally yes ur parents are too much
Maybe you could just let them know about how it feels intruding to you. Or you can fix a time everyday to call them then they won't repeatedly call you.Hope it will work.
It seems annoying, and maybe you could ask them to lesson the frequency a bit even if your mum will get upset; because maybe they genuinely dont know its upsetting you. I will say, I wish I didn't take those calls for granted when I got them.
Id like to add, growing up i viewed my mom as manipulative. She said and did things that she didn't realize affected me. We talked it over 10 years later and she apologized so deeply, and had been my greatest piller after that. Parents arnt taught how to parent. (also my mother had been diagnosed with BPD) please dont be quick to shun your parents. Have conversations even if they are uncomfortable.
Sorry if im a bleeding heart, I just really miss the goodnight calls.