What should I do?
My brother and mother have a strain relationship and it's def making things awkward between fam members... Their arguments can be summarised to this:
>Mom asked bro to do stuff
>Bro didn't do it within acceptable time limits
>Mom berated bro, continue talking and talking till the conversation turned into something else entirely
> Bro got frustrated, he either ignored her or talk back
>Everyone mad, returned to their room and pretend like nothing happened
We've been in this loop for awhile now...eventually, my lil bro shut us out. The amount of relief and happiness I felt when we talked like normal siblings were alarming to say the least. I get it that we've already have chores schedules and he should take responsibility but my god the things my mom said... Genuinely fucked up sometimes, got me questioning if she actually love us or not..
I get that she's fed up raising us like a single mother, but I wish she didn't use us as emotional outlet.. I'm worried about my brother's mental health but I also want him to understand that he can't just ignored important chores like taking care of his own cat.. I don't think he's gonna listen to me either, pushing this topic might actually make everything worse but I'm the only mediator at home. What can I do to make him open up? Any advice is appreciated
Treat him as a sibling. Help/ care about him if you can, but it's not your job to fix things, to take care of the atmosphere, to scold your brother to do chores, his emotions etc. You can be a listener for emotional support but what your parents fail to do is not for you to carry around like your responsibility. Look up parentified child/children
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HI, I hate to say this, but your problem won't be resolved until both of them have a long, understanding conversation,and from the looks of it.. that’s going to take a long time.
1.The best thing you can do is avoid taking sides under any circumstances.
2.If you are willing to speak with both of them (though not at the same time), do so with em......
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It’s not gonna solve. If u tell ur brotha to take shit from ur mum, he’ll end up being either a ppl pleaser or a pushover. U can’t change ur mom’s perspective which they developed at their adolescent or early adult age.
Imo, talk with them separately and try to get their opinions on this. If u think one is being rational, you can offer sup......
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