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Hello! so I'll be sharing some details that I think is important on this and i'd love to hear your advice on this one huhu
Basically, my mom has a hearing and visual impairment (but not that severe). For the whole day long, she's always sleeping and doing nothing, like not even any basic exercise... Additionally, she's also hot-tempered and lashes out on me while also neglecting me a lot and the house. I do my share and even more, but in some basic ones where she could help or do it on her own, she never does and just shouts at me and tries to guilt-trip me about how this is her situation, how she doesn't have any money, and how this and that. you can all call me cruel for this, but those tasks are ones she can do but chooses not to and also gets angry and makes an excuse, which always ends up with us fighting and the neighbors gossiping (as they always do, lol)
She's also very fast with money...like very very fast and when its's gone, she then goes to my aunt as she sends us money to helps us out a bit (she sometimes helps me with my expenses in school too), but her way of asking money is very demanding and when she isn't given any, she goes to anyone and everyone to say shit about her and whatnot, which further strains her and my relationship with my aunt (its really embarrassing tbh)
And as i've said she's really neglectful inside the home and towars me, she didn't even attend my graduation last year....oh but when it comes to anything about her very clingy and annoying bf who calls her nonstop, she'd go anywhere and everywhere just to talk to him, even leaving suddenly and then i'd have to go look around like a lost toddler for her, in the neighborhood and especially in family outings (it gets super annoying!) but when you even try to address anything with her, try to talk to her, and literally approach her to talk in a calm manner she'd start playing victim when you point this out, bring up every excuse in the book, guilt-trip, and start crying which eventuallly the conversation goes no where,, i and my relative literally stopped trying to even have a one on one talk to her cause its just pointless....
I'm not going to act like I'm not a trouble child. When we fight, we get into screaming matches nonstop. I'd for a while or for months not even clean the house and would always go elsewhere because of the depressing atmosphere and vibe here at home, and for the majority I'd stay in my room trying to ignore her as much as possible...
Oh, and did I mention I'm an affair baby? Not intentionally; my mom only found out during the pandemic that my "father" has a whole other family and basically abandoned us, and idk if it's because I look like the carbon copy of my "father" as to why she's always annoyed at me and lashes out at me... Help! What do you even do in this situation?! I can't get a job yet cause labor laws here in my country, but...yeah...uh, when the situation at home gets worse or just gets more suffocating, I tend to be a mess mentally, emotionally, and even physically...I want to change really, and I don't want this cycle to continue on. Like, I'd stop it here, please (so I don't have any desire to have kiddos), but you know, it really gets to you at some point that sometimes you wonder if there's even any hope....
Has anyone gone through the same thing? or a similar one? How did you face it?
Basically, my mom has a hearing and visual impairment (but not that severe). For the whole day long, she's always sleeping and doing nothing, like not even any basic exercise... Additionally, she's also hot-tempered and lashes out on me while also neglecting me a lot and the house. I do my share and even more, but in some basic ones where she could help or do it on her own, she never does and just shouts at me and tries to guilt-trip me about how this is her situation, how she doesn't have any money, and how this and that. you can all call me cruel for this, but those tasks are ones she can do but chooses not to and also gets angry and makes an excuse, which always ends up with us fighting and the neighbors gossiping (as they always do, lol)
She's also very fast with money...like very very fast and when its's gone, she then goes to my aunt as she sends us money to helps us out a bit (she sometimes helps me with my expenses in school too), but her way of asking money is very demanding and when she isn't given any, she goes to anyone and everyone to say shit about her and whatnot, which further strains her and my relationship with my aunt (its really embarrassing tbh)
And as i've said she's really neglectful inside the home and towars me, she didn't even attend my graduation last year....oh but when it comes to anything about her very clingy and annoying bf who calls her nonstop, she'd go anywhere and everywhere just to talk to him, even leaving suddenly and then i'd have to go look around like a lost toddler for her, in the neighborhood and especially in family outings (it gets super annoying!) but when you even try to address anything with her, try to talk to her, and literally approach her to talk in a calm manner she'd start playing victim when you point this out, bring up every excuse in the book, guilt-trip, and start crying which eventuallly the conversation goes no where,, i and my relative literally stopped trying to even have a one on one talk to her cause its just pointless....
I'm not going to act like I'm not a trouble child. When we fight, we get into screaming matches nonstop. I'd for a while or for months not even clean the house and would always go elsewhere because of the depressing atmosphere and vibe here at home, and for the majority I'd stay in my room trying to ignore her as much as possible...
Oh, and did I mention I'm an affair baby? Not intentionally; my mom only found out during the pandemic that my "father" has a whole other family and basically abandoned us, and idk if it's because I look like the carbon copy of my "father" as to why she's always annoyed at me and lashes out at me... Help! What do you even do in this situation?! I can't get a job yet cause labor laws here in my country, but...yeah...uh, when the situation at home gets worse or just gets more suffocating, I tend to be a mess mentally, emotionally, and even physically...I want to change really, and I don't want this cycle to continue on. Like, I'd stop it here, please (so I don't have any desire to have kiddos), but you know, it really gets to you at some point that sometimes you wonder if there's even any hope....
Has anyone gone through the same thing? or a similar one? How did you face it?
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Hello!!! So my phone has been broken for almost a month now. And well, I don't have the money to have it fixed since it's summer. All and I can't get a part time job yet cause i need to wait for another year before they start accepting me....but the thing is i know this person, we aren't that close. Still, they're really generous and I'm not here to say i'm going to take advantage of their kindness i'm just thinking of trying to ask to borrow money from them and hopefully, save up the money to pay them back.....i can't let my mom know nor my relatives that i'm going to borrow money from her cause she's actually an ex of one of my relatives....and yeah i really can't let my mom know cause she already has a lot in her plate and she'd probably lash out on me if i tell her my phone's broken (based on experience, literally even the simplest things tbh)
anyways i'm here to ask if i should go on with it? i'm planning on telling this person my intentions as well as how and when I'd pay them back...ik with my current state rn i don't really have the ability to be able to pay her back T-T but....soon hopefully, i'm going to make sure that my words aren't empty promises huhu as this person has been very supportive in me even though we chat in quite the secretive way.
anyways i'm here to ask if i should go on with it? i'm planning on telling this person my intentions as well as how and when I'd pay them back...ik with my current state rn i don't really have the ability to be able to pay her back T-T but....soon hopefully, i'm going to make sure that my words aren't empty promises huhu as this person has been very supportive in me even though we chat in quite the secretive way.
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idk if it just cause i'm fat or what but after eating there's this like heavy feeling in my back, especially by my neck (posture line/hunch/or just by the neck and back what ever you call it T-T) and its so ircky?? is it just me?