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I find the part on how they respond immediately to someone else to be the worst, tbh. It shows that it's not that they can't respond or have nothing to say - it shows that if it's you sending the message, they choose to not respond. And that's terrible. I hate to ask this, but are you sure they don't have another group chat without you? And I agre......   1 reply

The way he eats. If you chew with your mouth open and make a lot of noise, "us" is just never going to happen. A conversational ick is when they reek of the desperation to impress, to the point of bragging or name-dropping or talking about how much money they spend. Or (war flashbacks from this one) talking about how he's better than his brother (......   1 reply

If you view your future as an abstract, unspecific thing then I think it's honestly understandable that you don't feel motivated, and don't know why you should try. What motivates me (well, motivated as a student, and continues to do so even afterwards) is a standard of living that I want to enjoy: work as little as possible in a job that doesn't ......   reply

In kindergarten years and years ago (in the 90s, lol) I convinced the rest of the kids that not only were Biker Mice real, but that I knew them IRL because they worked for my dad. Like, this means nothing to anyone else here but it's such a fond memory, especially since other kids would beg me to try riding their bikes to check if they were "Biker......   1 reply

I prefer dark, but with either a nature ambiance (rain) or a horror story narration (there are two narrators on youtube/spotify that I enjoy listening to while trying to sleep) for sound.   1 reply

(Jinx related) I hate Potato. I think this is unpopular, because I've seen a lot of people love him? I stopped enjoying the plot a while ago because Dan's suffering just kept going on and on, but kept briefly skimming over the updates to see if even an ounce of remorse was going to manifest with JJ. So I was intrigued again when Dan finally left, ......   1 reply

one of the things that helped me during my phd when the days just didn't seem to have enough hours, and I was constantly burnt out, was this: 1. use an audio recorder on your phone to idea dump while taking a walk outside/on the treadmill. So e.g. I'd do all the brainstorming while in motion. Speak loudly and clearly. 2. Once I feel all my ideas ......   1 reply

It's true, I was one of the eggs.   1 reply

My final year of PhD. It was the busiest time for research + the thesis that needed to be edited and then defended. At the same time I had a part time job teaching in that university, and a full-time job teaching in another university. Plus at the time I was living quite far from either university so I'd have to leave home around 5:30 to catch the ......   reply

nope, and you need to log off lol   reply

Reading the answers here is absolutely horrifying. I'm sorry that so many have had to go through so much - the shit yall went through is something that should not have happened. I teach econ at a small private university, and while most of the faculty are fantastic, there's always that handful who treats teaching like a power fantasy fulfillment o......   reply

What I have noticed screws people over the most when presenting is thinking that they have to rememer EVERYTHING. Your audience will not know if there is something you forgot to mention, and if it's something they need to know, they will ask you (and answering is easier at that point). So don't stress yourself over needing to remember every small t......   reply

I don't know if this counts as a trope, but when the story starts focusing too much on the side couple. I'm there for the MC and the MC's rights (and wrongs), and inevitably messy relationships, idgaf abt the side characters falling in love with each other.   reply

I took econ all the way through, lol! B.Sc., M.Sc., and then PhD. Now I teach it lmaooo (i love it. I'm def biased but it's my one true love. men come and go but nothing fucks you better than the economy!! ) That said: rather than focus on a major/field, you might benefit from focusing on certain milestones that you want to reach. E.g. a certain l......   reply

They went to the same med school (different classes, dad was a year older). He asked her out, and that was that, lol.   reply

Because the attention economy is peaking, and while people think that short attention spans are only relevant when you want to advertise something, the truth is that people's attention towards each other is also harder to capture. Those who are interesting (either by character or appearance) will still usually get enough attention to be well-socia......   reply

Somehow ending up as a gainfully employed adult with my own life and healthy relationships, despite having grown up in an extremely neurotic and dysfunctional family. During my late teens I did not think this was ever going to be possible for me.   reply

I mean... a lot of people are just bad at sex. It's portrayed as this thing that's amazing all the time, but tbh it's not - if your partner has no idea what turns you on beyond the common physiological points, then yeah... sex will be a waste of time and energy. If you're doing it with a partner that you actually click with and are sexually compat......   reply