By the way, the FL is just pathetic stupid and weak.
I know there are single mothers out there who are smart, strong, resilient and not guillable!
I'm not saying this just to make good figure, seriously BRAVO. This is a little out of place but I've experienced a lot in point of what society thinks. I was adopted by a couple of two men, they raised me and gave me all the love the world could have, BUT what woud you expect from society? ╮(￣▽￣)╭ people then be like " how could they raised a child?; Two men don't have that flick a woman has; the love a mother can't be compare to anything; how pitiful is that child?" Not sure if I made my point
Society thinks the "normal/ideal couple" to raise children are a man&woman.
EXUSE ME? STFU
A woman can raise their child perfectly well (of course if the situation is ideal for that), they can perfectly well manage that with hard work physically an emotionally/mentally, ths most important thing is the will to do it, if you're not determined you won't get anywhere, of course you woud need help in general but the point is A WOMAN CAN PERFECTLY WELL BE INDEPENDENT, RAISE THEIR CHILD ALONE
And of course the same can apply to a single father.
Geez I hate the way this damn society can prejudice the things about a single parent (╬￣皿￣)凸
I'm not sure if I should have said that about me, it didn't have anything to do with your argument but I wanted to precise about how easily society can prejudice married couples/single parents ┗( T﹏T )┛shit now I'm embarrassed bye
True that! My parents divorced about 20 years ago, when my sister and I were around 6-7 years old. For a while we had sleepovers at our father’s house, thought that didn’t last. Our mom raised two girls on her own and we turned out ok.
I really can’t like those kinds of stories either.
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Don't be embarrassed. Thank you very much for sharing your informations!
You must have a decent good childhood because of your loving two dads :)
I personally had to raise myself because my own family were too toxic for me.
They fed and clothed me but they were incapable of answering difficult questions or teaching me actual useful healthy things. It was my inner rage and intelligent curiousity that led me to discover emancipation, empowerment, self-respect and social progressiveness themes.
A good parent is a good parent regardless of gender or status.
A single woman or a man who is willing to work very hard and sacrifice many things for her child/ren deserves lots of deep respect.
It looks like that Scandinavia treats single parents very well...
If there is a single father (ML) in Harlequinn Novel World, he is either unwilling, desperate, ignorant, cruel or incompentent until FL shows up who is a natural virginal caretaker.
No matter how edgy these Romance Novels want to be, they are still "safe" and very conservative/sexist.
Your mother deserves RESPECT and RECOGNICTION!
Completely agree. Grew up reading this sort of novel (far too young haha), as a child of a single parent household and definitely internalised the shame and feeling as if our family type wasn't as 'worthy' as those in two parent households.
Now, I dread thinking my mum was reading this crap... Thank fudge there's more independent writers and ebooks now.
I'm proud to be a child of a single parent household. I am emotionally strong and am soooo close with my mum. Too many parents (particularly mums) are shamed and guilted into staying in relationships that aren't working. Why? Cos of the stigma and shame.
I recognise these Harlequins are dated, but I looked on my library's shelves pre-lockdown and these kinds of trite storylines were still being peddled ヽ(`Д´)ﾉ
And Harlequin (or Mills & Boon in the UK) are having more sales than ever. It doesn't make sense
And most of the Harlequin and Mills & Boon stories are already recycled or plagarizing each other just like the HALLMARK Movies...
Literally! Repeat after repeat with the ML being from another 'exotic' 'distance land'
I know that two parents are better than one and that raising a child alone is very very hard but I am really getting tired of the excuse/shaming "A child needs two parents!" or "How will the society/people look at the child born out of wedlock?!
How about just sharing the parental rights and give her a fair child support???
A youtuber said once that children will likely become criminals when they don't have a mother and father... And my thought was WHAT?!
Even in a typical nuclear family both parents can be abusive, neglectful or can screw up their kids!
I am starting to believe that Harlequin Romance novels keep punishing and demonizing single independent mothers...
I need good counter arguments why it is not wrong to be a single parent!