
Period! It’s almost as if... the BLs are written with this fetishizing, oversimplifying binary of uk*/s*me to make it about the characters’ identities as “an uk*” or “a s*me” as opposed to viewing those as contingent titles based on actions and the acts of sex, because the latter allows the reader to self-insert where the former would build them as whole and complex people.... bloop

This one here has a similar premise
http://www.mangago.zone/read-manga/house_backer/mh/mpn_chapter-2393141/pg-13/

guys i don't remember the name of the manga i was talking about, but the one i just read have something similiar. i was kinda shocked because i was just talking about it.
http://www.mangago.zone/read-manga/come_to_hand/
also, i think things like this is easier to find in japanese manga than in korean webtoons.
one thing that pisses me off in bl is situations like this. when there's one guy that REALLY want to have sex so he go like "let me put it in, let me put it in" but if he really wanted to have sex with the person he "likes" but the other person is so afraid of it, shouldn't they bottom then? why are you forcing someone to bottom to you when you obviously wouldn't like to bottom yourself?? in bl we always see a top character and a bottom character, with those roles defined since the beginning. it's kinda annoying because reality is not like that and when it is, the "top macho alpha stay-away-from-my-ass" is usually some gay dude bro with internalized homophobia who tries so much to behave like a hetero.
once i ready a manga in which this happened and the guy who wanted to put it in said "then do you want to do me instead?" and he also said it didn't matter because he just wanted to have sex with the person he loves. to me that's how people should behave. i understand that in some bl the character already is presented as an asshole (like seungho from POTN), but here, for example, isn't this guy supposed to be in love with the other dude for a long while? isn't he supposed to be in love with him so much? why would he take him there, emotionally force him to do that and even get excited with the other guy's fear and fuck him harder when he see him fucking CRYING?? wtf is wrong with this dude??