Trauma and depression are not restricted to any age, implying such is extremely ageist. "Sucking it up" is never the answer for anyone re-experiencing past trauma whether they are a parent or not. Ignoring your mental health won't help you function. It results in people ill equipped to express their concerns with their own mental health. It results in parents unable to teach their children the same. Your basically suggesting he do what his father has made him do his entire life so far and it is wrong. Think a little more critically before you spew such hurtful rhetoric.
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Never said it is. And you clearly saw the "..." around "suck it up". He has to deal with that and had every right to feel how he feels. All I'm saying is he does have a very young child that's highly confused and anxious why his parent won't have him around. And that shouldn't be. Not like that. Than he has to take a proper time out. Not a running-away time-out, but one he at least shortly discusses with his partner and leaves for some time, so his son won't witness him being that way AND being pushed away.
Putting "..." doesn't mean shit. You didn't have to say it, it's what you implied. I'm not even gonna try and comprehend the explanation you clearly pulled out of your ass cause if you had meant that initially then thats what you would have stated -which it wasn't.
I guess it's bc he's still rather young and not really an adult yet, but... while he's feeling down bc of his parents, bc of questioning who abandoned who and why... he's ignoring and kinda "abandoning" his own son in the process.
I mean, he knows he's in very good and loving hands, but his son doesn't understand why he can't see and be with him, why he's being pushed away :/ So, even though it's hard right now, "suck it up" and care for him. It's what parents "have to" do.
Also, lamenting in the bedroom will solve literally nothing.