Yeah I think it was basically said to be forbidden so that if they did it, they did it secretly. That way none of the others would feel jealous and cause problems.
I have to double check with the translator, but from my understanding: sex between foreplay men is allowed (as long as they're responsible) sex between foreplay men and birdies is not allowed
I didn't really understand the part with the birdie and the foreplay man... So its not forbidden ? just on days off and not exclusive ?