i agree with this to a certain extent but are we really going to say the 2 main characters here really gave their relationship a true shot? they’ve just finally been honest with one another and gave up before anything could happen. this wasn’t a situation where they tried their hardest and for some reason just couldn’t make it work :/ also i like the childhood friend and i think their love could definitely grow into something more—i’m just annoyed because i know the 2 mc’s are prob still going to end up together despite all this drama Σ( ￣□￣||)
Some people don't have the courage to give it a shot at all. Like I said, some people see the end before it begins and don't even try because what's the point if it's going to end anyway? Some people say screw it and give it their all and then, when/if it does end, they feel they wasted their time. If it doesn't end, sometimes they feel they've settled, other times they are content, but not happy, and/or they end up happy but wonder about the "what if" (although I've found that in either case, the "what if" is always wondered about). It can be frustrating watching two people give up before they start, but it can often be for the benefit of them both if they don't if they know it's going to end because of some foreseen issues. Its ultimately about weighing the consequences and asking yourself, "are these consequences enough to stop me from giving this all I have?" Sometimes the answer is yes, some times it's no. It's yes for them--at least for now, because I have a feeling it will turn into a no. I've given up many potential relationships because there was no point in pursuing them, albeit for different reasons for each. In the long run, i recognized I was just not going to be happy with that person and it wouldn't be a life I wanted. But I get it. All this drama seems unnecessary. To be honest, I think I checked out of this story a long time ago. I'm just here to see if the author follows through with her going with her childhood friend, or with the mc. I hope it's the childhood friend. I can clearly see an epilogue where she runs into the mc and they're both happily married and feel nostalgic seeing one another. Or have a sad affair or something. Lol
Not everyone follows their heart. Some people are more prone to logical thinking, versus emotional. Love sometimes isn't enough, either. It can be a wonderful fantasy, but if you see an end from the beginning, what's the point of starting? Someone who's been through it might view that as a waste of time when the possibility of love growing with someone else is there and could lead to potential happiness. The majority of people DO follow their heart, rather than logic, but love sometimes doesn't coincide with happiness. That's why abusive relationships last so long--because someone keeps following their heart instead of logic. Thats am extreme example, but it works the same. Love, real love that lasts, is built on friendship first, work, communication, understanding, safety and comfort. That's why people say its not good to chase the butterflies. They often lead you over a cliff. Is this always the case? No. There are normally exceptions to every rule. Obviously, this is a manga and it will probably end with a dramatic flare of the two MCs getting together, but to be honest, she wouldn't be settling if she went with her childhood friend. Love CAN grow, and sometimes it's stronger for it. They're both looking out for their futures. And that's another thing; a lot of strong, loving relationships end not because the couple doesn't love one another, but because they want/need different things out of life and their paths just don't come together anywhere down the road. That sucks, but its never a failure and oftentimes isn't even a regret. If you've tried your hardest at something and it doesn't work out, no one can blame you for that and you shouldn't chalk it up as a failure. It's a learning experience and you've exhausted your efforts and that's fine. It just means it's time to move on to a new path, a new chapter. And there is nothing wrong with that. There is nothing wrong with planning out your future and knowing what does and doesn't fit into that, no matter where your heart might be in the moment.
But, like I said, there will probably be a very k-drama-esque type of revelation and come together for the two MCs by the end.