How is he toxic?
He never told about his trauvma but later he blamed her about how she did that worse.. I mean if she didnt know how she will careful about that? He always blame but she always cares for him. She did everything to him. Alwaus ask and always care about him. But he pretend like she was the one which one abused him and gave a trauvma to him
He didn't tell her directly on what happened to him, but he did tell her he was uncomfortable being chained up in the dark and she ignored him and kept him chained up in the dark to "break" him of his trauma. I think you calling him toxic because he's deeply traumatized is pretty messed up... Of course he's constantly comparing her to his abuser. His abuser was the first person to introduce him to bdsm and someone he can deem as a friend as well up until he abused him. This all happened to him when he was in middle school so OF COURSE it's sticking to him. So when she does something that doesn't sit right with him, his mind is of course going to go back to his abuser. Honestly I personally don't think he should've forgiven her so easily.
I think the person who posted that comment probably doesn’t 100% understand what a toxic person is or just uses the word often even if it doesn’t apply. He isn’t toxic, he is traumatized. No one owes anyone an explanation to their trauma even partners. Yes, mistake were made on both end but if anything her “blindness/innocence/unawareness/ borderline idiotic tendencies” (any of these applies) is the main issue. She has great intentions but continues to miss the mark that it’s problematic.
Hopefully, the author works more towards her character becoming more aware.
Read the whole story first
Yea! Thank you!!
He is not toxic, try to reread the story, he went through a very serious trauma, you clearly have never experienced something like this so I don't blame you for not understanding. But let me tell you that a trauma like this is a lot more serious that "I'm afraid of dark" it's caused by many psychological problems and it can be so bad that can lead to suicide. A toxic person is someone that cares more for themselves, a person that has a relationship only to feel better ignoring their partner's problems.
How she should know? She always cares about him. She did her best about everything. He always cared about not hurt him or damage him. If he didnt say anything to her how she could know? I mean.. Yes some people have trauvmas but nobody can't know until you told them. Especially when he gave mixed signals about sm plays.
He had told her about his trauma, not with many details but he did. Also when they were in the dark room he told her that he can't handle anymore because he is scared but as she said herself she didn't do anything to help him. After a time she tied him up and leaved him in a dark room, even when he yelled at her that he does not want this. I don't think that someone is wrong, actually they are both wrong and right at the same time. But I think that this is enough to forgive what he did. She triggered his trauma two times even if he has told her about that, he has. It's not unknown for her. People suicide from traumas so I find it a least stupid to judge someone's behaviour that has been triggered under trauma, it's pointless and very disrespectful. Even if she love him that doesn't mean that he can't have negative emotions. Relationships are not unicorns and sweets, they also have thunders that can change the relationship, break it or make it more stronger. I think that in this case it will make it stronger than before.
I agree honestly. He hasn't tried once to be a good sub but she has to be a perfect top and make no mistakes?
Your f**king idiot you said that "she is a good sub" your f**king s**t she only did that for personal happiness without consulting the boy to the point that she upload thier video and of course she played it to make the boy suffer again!!!
Hahaha look a stupid angry child has reared their nasty little head! Hahaha Grow up child, run along, the adults are speaking. Shoo.
Also learn to read properly. MIN JOON wondered HIMSELF if he is a good sub. No, he's not, period. Be mad about it.
Wtf are you even talking about the wrong story? There was literally no "uploaded video", and no one said "she is a good sub" take your meds child.
Sis I agree with you and laughed when I readed your comments. Somone should put a age filtre on this site. Why that angry child screaming like that? Shooo shoo go away kid.
You're very toxic.
No one is saying she has to be a perfect dominant, just the simple fact that she hasn't even been decent. She's been going back on her word multiple times with him. If there are any children on this site... it's you. I know being mature and thinking things through logically is hard for kids, and including grasping the topics of mature content, which is why you shouldn't be on here.
Lmao I'm toxic for calling out a bad sub. Okay. (づ￣ ³￣)づ
Aw you tried sweetie. :) Too bad you failed to make an actual adult point in this conversation. Perhaps it's too mature for you honey. Keep simping toxic behavior and excusing it all you like. （￣へ￣）
Anyone that replies to this conversation to agree with this person is too young to understand the gravity of the situation. There should indeed be more of age limit on this website because y'all are too young to understand anything logical. He is not toxic for acting by his trauma. She is not a good dominant because she does not take his feelings or anything he has to say into consideration. That's a HUGE problem especially since bdsm relationships work best when there's good communication. Although he didn't tell her what happened to him when he was young, he did establish that certain things she's done he was not okay with and that NEVER stopped her and that's why she's toxic and not a good dominant. So if you think he's toxic, politely go choke.
Why she should suffer??? He is toxic