I blame him for not being that forthcoming from the start. You can’t say expect people to understand you if you never explain, and he should definitely disclose that kind of information prior to a sexual/intimate relationship. Saying “I can’t date you” isn’t the same as being like “look...I know I liked you first. I know I approached you first. But I have dating trauma and may XYZ to you. If you can’t deal with that, I understand, but that’s where I’m at in this moment”
*tell me you've never experienced trauma without telling me you've never experienced it* most of the people (if not all) who had trauma cannot just casually say that they have one lol. Especially in Jihyun's case lmao you can't expect him to just open up immediately to anyone else.
I’m very confused: you have trauma but you’re willing to approach someone inexperienced, who clearly likes you, and evidently will hurt them as a result of your trauma? My brother has PTSD from almost getting blown up by a grenade in training a marine. He damn sure had to tell his now wife of 10 years that he may hurt her on accident when they first starting dating. Disclosure of mental ailment is 100% a must when doing anything intimate or deeply involved with someone else, because that’s exactly how you traumatize the other party. But go off I guess ┑(￣Д ￣)┍
Oh, I hope that your brother's doing well now, but his case is different from jihyun's. They also have different ways of dealing and coping with it so that's why jihyun was unable to do what your brother was able to.
I think my issue is that Jihyun is clearly aware of how his mental condition affects him. And he’s voicing It NOW versus having said so once he realized how much Yohan started to like him. The timing is what makes It bad. It may not be easy to disclose something so personal, but sex is a personal/intimate action for a lot of people which Jihyun should respect and acknowledge. Yohan was also very forthright about his own mental issues (social anxiety It seems) which Jihyun should have kept in mind and had a mature discussion about why they perhaps could not workout in a “no strings attached” relationship.
i agree with you there was no way yohan would have known that going to the club would trigger him if he didnt know that jihyun had a mental illness in the first place jihyun doesnt even need to explain how he got the trauma im sure yohan wouldnt pry jihyun could have expressed his mental illness before this and this big blow up could have been avoided
Yeah jihyun should have said that at first BUT remember how he was treated before? You can't expect him to open up with anyone he gets intimate with. It's his way of coping and he also already had numerous partners before yohan and you don't see him telling them his issue right??? Jihyun is overall unstable bc of the trauma he went through and even if he's aware of it, you cannot just expect him to know what to do and open up to anyone he has sex with.
And therein lies the issue. His trauma is romantic related. And because he’s not getting It properly treated, he is hurting other people. Yohan also opened up to him about his own trauma as I said, so really jihyun is at fault for being pretty irresponsible when you consider all the factors. Mental conditions can be managed/mitigated, but he’s openly choosing not to and lashing out at someone who is equally traumatized in his own way. That’s wrong lol
If I were Yohan I'll just get out of sight from Jihyun and make him miss him. As for Jihyun, can't blame him. He's trying his best to protect himself from the trauma that might repeat. Jihyun's past relationship was reminded me of how I always got ghosted because I excessively express my love for my special person. *don't worry I didn't experienced the scandal, only the betrayal*