I didn't read everything, but I agree with everything I've read, she's very hard on her daughter's for someone who's supposed to have the standards of a 21century woman in mind, and I forget most of the time that she's a reincarnator because it plays little to no place in the plot, even though there is a huge gap between what is considered correct now, and what was before.
I was also very surprised when she forced her daughter to dance with a man she didn't know, especially since the daughter was unwilling (and so was the mom, who almost turned down mister ML) knowing she'd already had a bad experience dancing with someone she didn't know before.
Exactly thank you- I tend to ramble a lot when I'm frustrated but at there are so many times Mildred seems to be a transmigrator, a 21st century woman with her own mind and so many times she's just like I need to do whatever I can for my daughter's happiness
I just didn't like Mildred's response to Iris because it was not an empathising response- it was a guilt tripping one in my opinion. Even when Iris was voicing her opinion of how Mildred has been prioritising Ashley since the beginning, she was mindful to mention that she feels awful for the way she does but she can't help the way she is feeling and what did Mildred respond with- Imagine how hard it must be for Ashley, imagine how difficult it's for her.
Yes of course Iris can imagine because she has been doing everything on her own- she is handling everything the best she can as an elder sister. She is helping her mother as much as she can and it breaks my heart that nobody can see how much she is tearing herself apart to do it. Not even her real sister lily- who calls her greedy for being a perfectionist.
Mildred is too caught up in the fairytale which is obviously not coming true now looking at the way things are turning out. And Mildred is a character who realises that there are so many factors that define a person's choices and calls herself not a believer of fated love but she believes that the prince & Ashley would meet once & fall madly enough in love to get married? The inconsistency of the thought doesn't escape me.
I wish it would have been handled in a much better way but it just made Iris's feelings look invalid especially when Mildred thought that she hated Ashley even more than Lily- as a reader I was supposed to accept Mildred's opinion and arguement but I couldn't because I empathize with Iris's character like many others do. Don't invalidate someone else's feelings instead reassure them that you are there for them, always have been and always will be. Iris did not want a moral lecture- she wanted reassurance and love from her mother.
Mildred could've explained her reasoning for prioritising Ashley to Iris later, after she would have calmed down and Iris being a rational person would have accepted it but right now, doing it when the person is obviously hurt & upset, Mildred is not only not resolving the issue at hand but is also reinforcing the fact that Ashley is more important because she has been at a disadvantage in the past as compared to her two daughters, not realising that her daughters lost a father too, her first husband and that doesn't justify Iris's dislike for Ashley but it is something that should have been kept in consideration.