so we are going to ignore all the toxicity and THE AUDACITY ?
poor boy
i could talk abt him for hours now
sigh being a mom friend is annoying i just wanna adopt him
I felt simmilar to uke when I was in school, though not to that extent, so I don't find his behaviour unresonable. I was ashamed of my circumstances and always felt like if I accepted someones help I would owe them then(even though rational part of my brain knew I wouldn't). I felt miserable and hopeless. Living in poverty affacts people differently and I guess not everyone will react the same as me or you. It's nice to hear you weren't ashamed, I wish I was like that.
Yep I'm totally with you on that. None of my friends had ever been to my house growing up and I always made excuses why I couldn't hang out after school. Truth was I didn't have money and I wouldn't ask for it from my friends. I hid my family well. Only thing I regret is I couldn't go to prom because you can't got with out a dress or suite. "I tried they wouldn't let me in with normal clothes".
Yes, I always made excuses for everything because I didn't have money or luxury to spend what little I had on things teenagers spend money on. It was constant cycle of regret. It really affected me mentaly. I am really sorry you couldn't go to prom :(.
Thanks , I'm am adult now so my live is a lot different than when I was young. I have a comfortable life, home, and job. I spoil my son a little more than I should, giving him the things I would have liked to have had at that age. But he's a sweet boy and I have a happy home. I'm a little embarrassed when I think back to some of the things I did to hide my family circumstances as a kid, but what can you do, but move forward. LoL
A quick observation about the boy. The first post said that his problem was the class difference, so money but, you missed the fash back. He dated some one that broke up with him by telling him, (and I'm paraphrasing here since I don't remember the exact wording.) That Gay relationships had no future and they would ultimately end at some point. He's clearly an a****** but because of that he has a bit of a trauma and does not believe in forever anymore.
I feel you. As a child, I used to live in a 3-bedroom 1-bathroom house with 10 or 11 other people. The house wasn’t messy, but it was cluttered. I used to feel ashamed when I bought friends or rich relatives over, but over time I let it go. I just learn from a young age that you can’t choose the circumstances you’re born into, but you can make the best of it. I learn that it’s okay to reach out and ask for help, but just make sure you reach out to someone trustworthy. I wish the uke would depend more on others. He has a boyfriend who’s willing to help him, but he rather suffer than depend on a loved ones because of something as useless as pride. I’m the type of person that if given a choice I would never make things hard for myself. Life’s unfair as it is. If I can make my days more comfortable, why feel conflicted? Hell, I even considered getting a sugar daddy many times (although I never did get one in the end). I’m just trying to survive.
I’m here to talk about the uke only. What I couldn’t get past was the uke’s pessimistic attitude towards their relationship. He was ready for it to end at any time. The uke’s excuse: one’s rich and the other’s poor, they have different paths to take. Are we living in the Middle Ages? ┑(￣Д ￣)┍
The uke has so much pride, that’s the problem. You can’t pay the bills and put food in your stomach with some bullshit pride. As someone who comes from a working-class family, I never felt ashamed from getting financial help from the government and family and friends. Especially if you’re only borrowing the money and paying it back later. It’s good to have pride because you work hard for what you have, but the uke let pride gets in the way of nearly everything in life. The seme isn’t the best, but at the very least he try to make the relationship work.
I have been friends with people who are very passive in our friendship. It’s always up to me to approach them. It’s up to me to ask them if they’re free to hang out or if it’s okay to FaceTime. It’s up to me to make the plans. Whether it’s friendship or a romantic relationship, at the end of the day it’s a type of relationship. It’s tiring to be the active party in a relationship.
The seme’s toxic and has anger issues while the uke’s passive, pessimistic, and prideful. This combination.... SMH.