Ngl you caught me in the first sentence. But how can someone except a person to be so strong so as to not let their trauma take over, like if they are that strong then they'll obviously not be traumatized in the first place. But yeah, people here are perfectly capable of going through the comment section and read the spoilers regarding the actual villain, the FL's dad. Like the ML is a literal victim too. So hating on him is completely wrong.
Omg idk that the villain is fl dad STILL like what you've said trauma is a scar. ╥﹏╥
I think people can be traumatized and not let it control their life. Being traumatized has nothing to do with strength, but how you handle it has everything to do with the coping mechanisms you've been taught and your personality. This is totally unrelated to the story, just wanted to give my two cents on your comment
I understand what your saying but trauma is very difficult to get over or not let it control you, depending on what it is and the type of person. Maybe if you went through something, you'll be able to get through it but not everyone is like that. We can also see the fl trying here and the ml helping her as well in the second life and that's hows it's like- to keep trying. My friend went through something terrible (assualt) and I can see it still affects her to this day. I support but I never tell her to get over it because it's just not easy. It takes time.
Also like you mentioned before and the comment above you, most of the time you need support. Learning coping techniques might not be accessible or easy for everyone. My friend went to see a a health professional two times and they were crap so she didn't want to go again. After coaxing and supporting, she decided to give it chance and try a new professional and now she's getting better (little by little). Maybe because I have people around me struggling with trauma, I feel empathetic towards the fl. To me, she's making great progress in the 2nd life. Also I don't hate the ml at all- I read the spoilers and it sucks what the dad dis. I hope the dad gets what he deserves on the end!
Please ignore my typos, I don't know how to edit!!!
I'm sorry to hear that about your friend, I know its not easy. You brought up some good points, but I think you misunderstood what I was saying. I wasn't implying that trauma is easy to get over with the correct coping mechanisms or a certain personality type. I was just noting that it is POSSIBLE to be traumatized and still appear to be unaffected (as a response to someone elses comment). Perhaps I didn't word it well, but just because someone appears to be functioning well and is handling their responsibilties doesn't mean they've gotten over their trauma. But again, as you said, how people are affected and cope with trauma is different based on a multitude of factors
Haha no worries, happens to all of us
Ahhh I see, yes you're right! I misunderstood the direction you were taking! I completely agree with you. This might be more directed towards the first comment than. Thanks for your input!
y'all be complaining about the ml showing interest in her and that he had no right to do so but y'all hear yourselves? she was at fault too, she let her trauma take over her and didn't do a thing and scared to hurt her child, now she'd been facing the ml its obvious that she would pique his attention