from what i know apparently it is the submissive that holds the power, they are the ones giving the dominant permission to hurt them and do all those other stuff and if the sub doesn't want it anymore the dominant has to listen to him/her its a relationship built on trust mainly
Yes. Thank you for mentioning that. It is another intriguing fact I discovered while I reading & discussing about this manga. I had no idea about it at all, as most of the BDSM BL out there(or may be just the ones that I came across) is portrayed in the opposite way.
BDSM is represented especially poorly in yaoi and BL manga. Well, in a lot of manga in general, actually. You'd be surprised by the amount of control a sub actually has. Some partners even plan out what they will do ahead of time, the sub okays or suggests all of it. BL often portrays it as active sexual assault or as the sub getting swept away in it all, but that isn't accurate at all. I thought the seme was quite sweet, tailoring his actions to what his uke wanted.
I agree. Specially My idea about BDSM acquired from BL mangas couldn't have been more wrong. Majority of the BL portrays it as plain sexual & physical abuse. And I think the main reason behind it is because they feature the submissive as a "forced" submissive which makes it non-consensual. Before reading this manga I never thought about BDSM the way I am thinking now. Consent,Control & Trust makes a Huge difference here, as BDSM practice takes both the partners to the very edge of their Sanity. It's the kind of Dangerous Pleasure that can not be brought upon/acquired without Utmost Trust in your partner. And because most of the BLs are too busy in fan servicing(no offense intended towards BDSM manga fans) they fail to deliver such an important fact.
BDSM - a topic/subject I am not that knowledgeable about neither am I into it. No offense intended towards BDSM practitioners/fans but it's just not my thing. Consequently I avoid stories that have anything to do with it. BUT, I still ended up picking "Yoru wa Tomodachi" lured in by it's Outstanding Cover. I am weak to Beautiful Artwork just as well Stories and I am immensely glad that I did as This manga has Both.
Yoru wa Tomodachi features, 2 seemingly normal boys actually sharing a relationship of Dominance & Submission, on a more psychological level than physical. The latent Dominant gradually becomes fascinated with Bondage play while catering to the whims of his Submissive. What's most intriguing is the fact that, it's NOT the Dominant who's in control here, BUT the Submissive.
Even though I have no knowledge in BDSM what so ever this story came to me as a portrayal & exploration of the very essence of it while showcasing Masumi & Tobita's distorted love story. After the 1st few chapters I was mentally prepared for a fairly twisted story with a tragic background behind Tobita's masochism. BUT to my pleasant surprise it turned out pretty Sweet at the end. Ido Gihou meticulously NAILED each & every aspect of the complexity of Tobita & Masumi's relationship, that kept suffering due to Tobita's paradoxical character BUT, thriving with Masumi's love, at the same time. Slow claps for sensei for such an exceptional BDSM Love Story. I will never see BDSM in the same eyes as I did before. And a Huge Thanks for the Picture Perfect End! I couldn't have asked for a more Beautiful One.