exactly, this was emitting such red flags irl he would be such a bad dom, bdsm isn't only one sided it's finding what both sides like by asking for consent and using safe words.
Irl, if I would’ve seen that, I would give him the same treatment. Just start whipping his ass based on presumptions. LMAO! Though I will say, his thought process was pretty accurate. That’s my thought process when it comes to impact play.
Anyone else who’s interested: Don’t wait to let your partner bring up the use of a safe word. I don’t care if you’re Top or bottom. Advocate for your own safety. If they say that you don’t need one, high tail it out of there. Down the road, the lines of BDSM and abuse will be blurred and you can find yourself in a situation you don’t want to be in. There are few exceptions where a safe word isn’t necessary but the example shown in this comic is not one of them.
…that I seriously don’t agree with. If you’re playing with a person and you don’t know what type of pain they like, use a safe word. As he was getting hit, I heard alarm bells ringing! Geez!! At least then he will know of he can use the crop for pleasure or for future punishment.