Also sometimes the reason why someone has a hard time with hygiene is because parents never cared to teach them often because they were physically/psychologically absent. People have to self teach themselves to care for their body while feeling ashamed and unable to ask for help from anyone by fear of being looked down on. The process is long and hard and can lead to just giving up and devaluing themselves before others can.
Thanks bestie for wording this well!! You spoke facts, I couldn't have agreed more!!
FINALLY! SOMEONE WHO UNDERSTANDS MEEEE
People need to stop shaming others about hygiene— this story is lighthearted and stuff but there are people out there who struggle with executive dysfunction (from depression, ADHD, or other mental illnesses and disorders) who really can’t get themselves to bathe often or even eat properly and do basic every day things. They’re not gloomy, unhappy people, sometimes they’re just your average Joe struggling deeply with hygiene because it’s just horribly difficult to make your brain and your body have the energy to get you to take care of yourself.
The boyfriend in this story is amazing and probably the dream of anyone who struggles with these issues because 1) he doesn’t assume anything about her just because she has a hard time bathing 2) he’s supportive without shaming/blaming her or making her feel like she’s in the wrong or like how this describes and devalues her.
The way to get better hygiene is by building up a routine and if that doesn’t work, it probably mean you’re dealing with some issues. Either way, you are not devalued. Taking care of yourself is a privilege for the healthy and wealthy, doesn’t mean the opposite is shameful, it just means you’re doing your best and you probably have no one to support you because they’re too busy acting haughty and assuming stuff about you to make themselves feel better.