Yeah he has problems but it doesn't excuse him neglecting his family, if it weren't for the FL his daughter's health would've deteriorated both mentally and physically all because of Mariam's crimes. It's his fault for pushing them so far. You shouldn't glorify his actions towards his wife and daughter because of his ex-wife, he never should've neglected his innocent daughter, regardless of her being Mariam's child. Nor should he be so far gone into being suspicious of his wife for so long while being such a shitty father himself. He didn't care enough for his daughter simply because of her biological mother, and he sure as hell didn't care for his wife. He married for face and left her helpless while he let his daughter slowly melt away because apparently he's got his "own shit to deal with." His family should've been his priority. Even nobles have to respect that.
Well, I should have written this before, but I don't like the ML much. And his past traumas definitely don't justify his acts towards his child and wife. I don't know how to explain my self better. I'm not good with words, so I'll leave this at that.
So r u gonna blame a person who was raped as a child and forced to make children ?????? Of course he'd neglect his daughter if she reminded him of his ex wife the past will hunt him again and again u make it sound like it's all his fault he's a human too u know the dude is just trying to protect himself r u saying he should ignore all his feelings and prioritise them first it may sound selfish but there's nothing wrong with trying to protect yourself u really sound like a jerk here just because he's ml doesn't mean he have to bare with everything
Yeah and it's obvious their marriage was political and that she knew it was political so i don't really see their point
It may just be the case, that I sympathize with the ML, because I was harassed as a child, and I was ignorant, I thought it was normal, although something deep inside told me it wasn't. It was a family member, and I don't trust anyone anymore. I can't. I pushed away everyone, and hid myself behind a mask.
I can't love my own brother like how a normal sister would. I still think it's better for him to stay away from me than stay with me and get hurt, and I'm scared as well. It might sound like I'm using my traumas as an excuse. But that's just what I have been doing until now.
Exactly they didn’t even think about the ML feeling and only go for those two feeling. He has his thing to deal with and he literally have a trauma and the other two don’t. He maybe ignore his kid but at least he doesn’t hit her like the other father in manhwa ヽ(`Д´)ﾉ
Clearly you aren't listening, I'm not blaming him and sure as hell didn't say he shouldn't protect himself. His child throughout your entire rant was completely innocent. His daughter wasn't remotely similar to his ex-wife in any way, not looks nor personality. He pushed her away for the sole reason of her being his wife's daughter. He may have been unwilling but coming from someone who had actually been in her shoes, she was NEVER at fault. If he's going to bare with his struggles it shouldn't have been at the cost of his daughters health. I understand he's struggling, I've had the same struggle as well. It doesn't excuse the fact he is willing to sacrifice his family to selfishly protect himself due to his wife's errors. His daughter shouldn't have to suffer like that.
He doesn't need to provide love in his relationship, just support. I didn't say he needed to prioritize love in his relationship, he should be supporting his wife publicly. He only dragged his wife's reputation through the dirt she hardly had power among nobles because he didn't support her politically. He was being irresponsible.
You should read my other reply to their comment, neglect is no joke and you shouldn't disregard it like that just because he didn't hurt her physically. Neglect can scar his child in ways I can't even comprehend. For some being beaten physically was preferred over neglect. The slightest touch from someone who would neglect you for years could mean enlightenment for so many suffering children. As for the disregard of the ML, read my reply to them for an explanation.
I know that feeling as I've suffered both my parents neglected me my whole life I'm so scared to go near a man I don't even go near my little step brother who's litrelly a child I know that I've neglected him but at the same time I don't dare to go near him I know it might hurt him but I always stay away from him I defend the ml because I know that feeling even if I know it's wrong u can't help but keeping your guard up and it's not anyone's fault the child is innocent but the ml is not in the wrong either I know he should've tired but a mental trauma goes much more deeper if u still think otherwise well that's your opinion I won't say anymore
Yet again I have to repeat myself, trauma may go deep but it isn't necessary to introduce the same neglect and trauma he'd face to his daughter. It's specifically his fault. I know firsthand how deep trauma can leave an imprint on you, I don't need an insight on it. You're being subjective towards the ML by comparing your trauma to him. Theres sympathizing but you're crossing a line here. You say I'm not being considerate of him but you're dismissing the actual problem I've brought up. He's inflicting his own trauma onto his daughter, that's what I've been trying to say. Disregarding his irresponsible behavior towards his wife and daughter because he's attempting to keep his guard up? Yeah he deserves sympathy, he shouldn't have suffered what he went through. Still he's projecting fear and neglect through his behavior and actions, it just proves he's going about it all wrong. Now if you still disagree and continue to support the ML through his charade, have at it! I can't force you to think of him otherwise if you believe he deserves enough sympathy to completely disregard all of his actions.
Stop hating on the ML guys. The dude's got his own amount of shit to deal with.