So, I just binge read up to ch47, and to say that the fl was irritating the ever living sh!t out of me would be an understatement....
She talked on the phone with the ml, listened and responded in kind to his confessions of love and affection, but minutes later she sees an article saying that he's studying abroad in England and getting married to a random woman from another company.
Not only does she overlook the first obvious lie in the article that should have made her start to doubt the truth of it, which is that he's actually living in seclusion in a tent in the middle of the desert in Mongolia, and not studying abroad in England.... he had already told her he had escaped from Korea because of how much pressure his family, the company, and the business was giving him, not to mention the abuse he endured.
But rather than talking to him or listening to his side of the story, she just takes everything in the article as fact, and packs up and leaves.
She dodges his calls and won't let him talk to her, she leaves the place he found for her, she completely drops off the radar so he can never find her, and tells her friend "yeah he never even tried to contact me" and lets the friend talk sh!t about him while claiming she was the victim the whole time.
When he does find her, she still refuses to listen to what he has to say, and she breaks things off with him saying "I was so upset about my illness that my entire time in the desert was not a good time, and I just mistook my feelings for love bc of how stressed I was, so be happy with your fiancee, bc you just mistook your feelings too" and then just CONTINUES TO VICTIMIZE AND PITY HERSELF
She went on a few times about how sad she was that just as her life was getting good she had her happiness stolen away again, and gave some phony excuses in her mind about how she couldn't be with him bc she wasn't good enough for him, but it's the same as how she claimed there was no one who cared about her who would miss her when she died, as if she didn't have a super close friend of 3+ years, a great workplace that treasures her, and the orphanage director who treats her like a daughter: she just loves pitying herself and claiming she's the victim of everything bad in life.
She's supposed to be this super smart, somewhat clumsy, yet really bright and kind girl who had 2 majors and a whole PhD, a 30 year old woman, but she treats all the people around her like absolute sh!t, and it really got on my nerves.
There's nothing misogynistic in any of what I said, her issues aren't bc she's a woman, the author just wrote a stupid and irritating fl.
Thank you for both of your Comments. And i definitely agree with the two of you.
And i actually really like the fl because after everything she's been through she still stayed strong and did her best in everything.
While that's fair, communication is a 2 way street. She bared her soul to this guy and he barely gave her any information about his. When they lived in seclusion it didn't matter who he was and where he was from because they quite literally lived in their own world. But once they stepped back into society the ML owed it to the FL to be honest about his circumstances. If her misunderstanding him is a cliche and overused annoying FL plot point then him not telling her the truth in the first place is equally annoying.
He shouldn't have retrospectively tried to rectify a mistake that he consciously chose to make in the first place. Who's to say he wouldn't have continued lying to her the whole time had they never left mongolia? She was completely blindsided and it's fair that she didn't want to give him an opportunity to explain himself after finding out that he hax a fiance and he was this super rich dude.
She's not as accustomed to the way of the elite because that was never her life so she had no reason to suspect that he was in a business marriage situation with his fiance. Also she thought she was literally going to die so it's totally fair that she thought her feelings were possibly some version of suspended bridge syndrome and he was possibly just lonely and overwhelmed by his previous life and she was different. She never wanted to question that he wasn't in love with her fiance because, once again, she was blindsided.
If my boyfriend of a short period of time that I had intense feelings for suddenly seemed to have a fiance that he seemed very close with I would be hurt and pissed and want to remove myself from the situation for closure. She also had came to terms with the fact that they were from 2 different worlds altogether and could never work out. She's not playing the victim. She is the victim.
Yup.. Like i still want them to be together.. But i like that they stay true to their character and face this conflict.. I think facing a conflict and trying to solve the conflict at hand and reflect on our decision be it good or bad is a good character growth.. Plus she decide to stay away despite knowing the truth because she thinks she has nothing to offer to him to reach his goal.. Which is reasonable considering her character, background and mindset.. But her heart does yearn and went to him as soon as he shows that she is what he want and most of all, need..in my opinion anyway.. She is pretty human despite being a make believe character.. She is a well made one to me
Good education doesn't mean high eq..
before reading this, i headed to the comments section & all of y'all said some shit abt the FL and her being annoying or wtv so i didn't expect much (even tho i should've known it was just the same idiotic people spouting nonsense). i literally cannot fathom how some of y'all are upset at the female lead?? for what? tell me why u hate or dislike her and don't just rely on ur misogynistic mind to give me some dumb reason.
because as far as i know, the FL has done nothing wrong. put yourself in her shoes. imagine you have no one in your life since the moment you are born. and when u do make it to become someone successful after hard work, you find out youre terminally ill and you have a few months left to live. & then u throw & give away & lose everything you've built & go to some place. u almost die until you meet a person who u later have feelings for, but then you can't even love them completely becausr you feel guilty and scared that person will be left depressed after you're gone. and then u find out youre not actually dying and everything you gave up was for nothing. and when u do accept the other person's feelings and your love for them, u decide to wait for them and start over with your life until you find out the love of your life and your only hope is getting married. and that he NEVER mentioned having a fiancée and being engaged. he knew u were going to korea and he never once thought of telling you even though he dropped the idea of getting married.
so, tell me, would u still trust that the feelings that person had for you were true? tell me you wouldn't feel heartbroken, betrayed, and angry?? if i were the FL, id sure as hell be angry. i know this man ran away from everything, but if he decided to live with me in the future, he should've broken that engagement even through another person. y'all are such scumbags judging her harshly when y'all would've been in the same position as her. y'all are only mad bcs we know the Ml actually loves her, but hey, get your head out of a manhwa and think that in real life, u can't read how people actually feel.
her decisions and feelings were rightfully justified and if you have a problem, take a good look in the mirror and ask yourself? Is there actually a problem with that character or am i just trying to find a problem woth her due to my misogynistic mind?
Bye