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is this considered fetishizing?

You can think someone is hot without fetishizing them……

i think it goes beyond thinking someone is hot here
but idk hence me putting a question mark at the end of my sentence

Idk I think they’re just fan girling fetishizing is more reading it only for sex or shipping two men together when they’re not dating.

well i think that its also hypersexualizing or fawning over gay men, it just makes me feel uncomfortable (as a gay man) ya know so thats why i asked that

I don't think finding someone attractive is fetishizing

read my other responses i explained why i thought that way but im not certain if other queer people think so

I did, I personally think you're overthinking about it. This person may be pansexual and you thinking that they're fetishizing is being judgemental. Let's say they aren't pansexual, it's still okay because you litteraly can't control who you find attractive. As human beings we shouldn't overthink about whether finding 2D fictional characters is an incorrect thing or not based on our sexualities.

Well my gay cousin and his boyfriend doesn't think it's uncomfortable. Because they understand the difference between real life and fiction. I for one would never be interested in real gay men's relationships or their sex life.

Real people aren't this beautiful/sexy or interesting.

I totally agree with you, as long as we seperate reality from art everything should be good.
And the way you say real people aren't sexy lol

but still you have to understand who these stories are portraying its not like this is science fiction its portraying 'real' people. Even if the character is gay you shouldnt say ou its okay to fetishize if they arent a real person its still weird.

Her sexuality has nothing to do with this situation because shes a girl and you can fetishize gay people regardless of it. Yes you cant control who you love but you can still tell when that love or attraction is wrong. These 2D characters still portray 'real' people so we shouldnt disregard that possibility, so by saying its okay to sexualize gay men because its fiction, its still wrong to do so. Im not saying she did i just had an inclination that she might be but im still not certain.

Saying such manhwa's portray people is completely wrong, you're basically saying gay men have big dicks, are always attractive, rape, always enjoy sex, etc. That is why we shouldn't think such things when it comes to manhwa's its totally different, we need to seperate art from reality. Once again it is not fetishizing at all to find characters attractive regardless of their sexualities when it comes fictional characters. People are always commenting about how the characters are attractive, I'm just wondering if it bothered you because she revealed her gender.

I meant being gay isnt fictional+ when i said portray i didnt mean phisical atributes well they are human. Not always yeah you need to know the difference between reality and fiction but not always, sometimes the fiction is portraying reality and conveying a message and you should seperate them. No i wasnt bothered by her gender i was just bothered by the comments that i kept seeing about this so i chose this one to ask if this was fetishizing no need to get personal with me.

Yeah that too

shouldnt seperate them*

I'm not getting personal lol sorry if it seemed that way, but it is best not to use such manhwa's as portraying one's image. You can use shounen ai as an example it's more fluff, but not yaoi that's a whole different level which should not be used as an image for gay people. My point is, finding them attractive is not fetishizing, the definition fetishizing is far from what she commented.

Yes it shouldnt be used as an image of gay people but thats still no excuse to fetishize it. What i meant by portrayal was showcase.
Its just her wording is what gave me off and others commenting the same thing. Idk im probably overreacting but these comments just strike me the wrong way...

Maybe you're new? We always comment about the characters appearance, don't overthink about it too much :)
Personally I think people who talk about 'fetishizing' are minors who come from tik tok not that you might be but I just thought about it lol

no im just a gay man