Wait correct me if im wrong but when they are tight that means it hurts? but i love them

It could mean that it hurts or that it feels good as well... or both

For men that isn’t really how it works, especially with a muscle like the sphincter.

Wait what???

well i only said that because if it didnt hurt he would be calm and now tight i think

That’s a vagina that loosens when pleasured. For the anus to loosen it has to stretched because it won’t naturally happen.

ahh thanks

And if it is loose then something is probably wrong