my guys, resolve your trauma first before engaging on intimate relationships. Talk to friends and family, reach out, receive professional help, learn to slowly love yourselves. Have partners, not caretakers. Seek love, trust, stability(in all aspects), and etc. and make them the pillars to yall relationships. It will depend on circumstances, but one thing should be made clear: trauma is not a spice, it is a serious issue that needs to be talked about more for awareness.
This was a meme bro but yeah please get/seek help for trauma
From personal experience its better to lean on others than take it alone
When trauma makes you kinda spicy