someone who lost so many people and is fighting alone would want to have one person around that just sees her as who she is and thinks about her and wants to socialise with her. imagine you are her. you wouln´t want anyone to pity you, as that would be looking down on you in some way. you would want someone to straight up see YOU and talk to YOU and just be conscious of YOU and your existence. we are social animals after all and having healthy and open conversations with people who respect us as who we are is very healing and motivating and makes the brain release some very nice hormones that prevent depression :)
I agree with the comment above. There is a difference between being thoughtful and pitying her. If she sees that you care for her because of your old ties, there should never be awkwardness: only good times and reminiscing of both your past (๑•ㅂ•)و✧
I don't think I pity her. Because I know she is a very strong person, physically and mentally. She is an outgoing person, but especially because of that, when suddenly being alone can be lonely.
It just too many things happened to her ever since we all finished high school.
I just worried that she don't have anyone to support her emotionally, especially now that she is pregnant, it is dangerous for her to work something that is physically exhausting.
Imagine having to ride a motorcycle for 4-5 hours couple times a day between towns while pregnant... to do deliveries that sometimes require lifting things...
I guess I should get her new contact from my mom, and just catch up with her without touching her sore-spot...
Yeah, I will try to contact her and just do some catch up to assure her that she still have someone who cares. And hopefully her life can only get better from now-on. She got disappointed by her spouse twice....
I hate those stupid man who did this to her.
I am pretty introverted and came from a family with a financial slightly below the average.
Since my personality is like this, I only have 2-3 close friend that I care for them and also they care for me.
Ever since I managed to go overseas to work, our family finances has improved to an average family. After years, I lost contact with those few friends I got. I only heard news about them from my mom.
Apparently 1 of my friend is in a not very good condition.
I heard she is currently pregnant but got divorced. She is doing delivery between town to earns for daily necessities. Her family cut ties or disowned her since she was originally adopted.
At the earlier years I was away, I was still in contact with her, and did help her once, and give some envelopes for her when she had her wedding.
But after that, we kinda lost contact since each of us were busy with our own lives.
Now, I’m worried to get in contact with her. I worried that I would ask unnecessary questions and make her sad. I also not in a condition to help her, especially after COVID hit me hard last year.
I wonder if it is only emotional support will be enough for her? Should I really try to contact her again after so long?
It’s pain me that I would ended up have to think about myself and my family condition first before I can think to help her…. I really wish I could be real rich one day….
Saving up money for that dream to come true…. And according to my plan, it still need 10 more years before it came true…