Your entire message misses the point that he met him dressed as a woman. This wasn't a surprise he found out later. If you don't want to be with someone who cross dresses be honest.. don't pretend everything is ok only to throw it in his face later. I would agree with you if he met him as a man and found out he cross dressed later but that is not the casel
okay so because he met him as a woman he doesn’t have the right to feel uncomfortable? that doesn’t make sense? yes he knew but that doesn’t mean he has to be immediately accepting of it. cross dressing or not younghwa does love our seme. you can’t act like he’s not entitled to have his own feelings of discomfort
Did he share these feelings of discomfort? Did he let him know he was struggling with it? Nope he just avoided going out with him unless he didn't cross dress. I am not saying him having those feelings are wrong I am saying he is only considering himself when thinking those feelings through.. and if that was the case he shouldn't have allowed himself to get that far along only to throw him away. This goes for all couples dealing with all types of difficult situations.. if you go in to it knowing that something your partner does is a problem for you and you don't address that you can't turn around and throw it in their face later or runaway without explanation.. thats wrong on so many levels!
I have too agree with @Tboff, glasses dude is falling in love with someone, who he thought crossdresses for "fun". In my opinion the reason why he cried was because he felt guilty knowing that he was trying to change something without thinking of the impact it had on the other dude. To put it bluntly, he's falling for the guy, but not his lifestyle, hence the guilt when he attempted to change that.
But idk, tbh i could totally be wrong. ╮(￣▽￣)╭
i understand what you both are saying but I still believe that Younghwa has the right to learn how to adjust and embrace something that is foreign to him. We all can see he loves our seme, now it’s just a matter of embracing ALL of him and not just the parts he’s comfortable with. I just think he needs some time. Also thank you for having such a good conversation about this instead of cursing me out lolol
Oh yeah for sure, i don't hate him. I actually felt relieved when he cried, cuz, as i mentioned previously, it gives the impression that he is guilty for wanting to change the dude.
Fair enough... i think my perspective is he needs to be more communicative in this situation! Love the chat you guys! Its nice hearing different perspectives!
I'm glad, because honestly you both brought up really good perspectives, that i genuinely agree with.
It's 10 times better than people just hating on a character for being "annoying"
this is his first relationship and the person he loves is a cross dressing man. I don’t know what planet that would be easy to accept for anyone in the real world. Seme is gorgeous and we all see that, however cross dressing is not the norm for younghwa. unlike other Bl mangas this one does a great job of showing the internal struggle and insecurity that Younghwa must feel knowing his partner is considered different. Idk why you guys expect him to be understanding and accepting when the concept of cross dressing has never applied or be applicable in his life? like get off of your high horses pls it’s getting to be very irritating. Younghwa can atleast ADMIT what he’s insecure about and what he’s uncomfortable with along with the fact that he DOESNT want to hurt the seme by forcing him to conform his own standards. Y’all just aren’t thinking from a realistic standpoint and it shows. Younghwa imo is moving forward one step at a time in a good direction for their relationship