you don't need to be gay to have that
all the straight guys i know aren't as cool/hot/sexy as narasaki (or basically all the yaoi guys), they are all so meh
well finding an ideal guy for you is also luck, saddly we can't find the perfect guy that easy... maybe you know some great guys but you don't know because yu judge them before knowing them... if that's not the case, then you should met more people, outside of your circle of freinds/classmates/coworkers, maybe you can do an activity (sport, dancing, art, or enter a social organization) outside school/university, and then you'll probably met nice guys (in my experience a in social organizations that help people there are some really cool and proactive guys)
dude who are into music (instruments) are also cool/hot... (ususally)
damn i would rather be gay if it means being able to date someone like narasaki who is uninterested on the outside but is actually aggressive in bed...