why some of you hates the uke and not the seme

put yourselves in his shoes, the humiliation and any form of harassment he got after that incident is too much and the seme always going on about how it is not a big deal like wtf? i understand the uke's attitude at this point

also, sandor is two-faced? he is with the uke through thick and thin he's just like that to anger the seme, he seem to genuinely like the uke too and is direct about his feelings