Marriage/divorce culture in Japan is crazy. My mom is Japanese (I’m half). She had a bab...

whalien November 22, 2023 12:02 am

Marriage/divorce culture in Japan is crazy. My mom is Japanese (I’m half). She had a baby with this Japanese guy when I was maybe 12?? Anyway, they have their baby, and my mom tells him, I don’t want to be with you unless we are getting married. So either we get married or we aren’t together at all. But he doesn’t want to get married to someone who already has 3 previous kids and is divorced. He feels like he can’t marry someone like that because he thinks his parents won’t accept it. That’s crazy though because he still wants to be with her, just not married. Also, my siblings and I lived full time with our dad, not her. We have never even met this man so it’s not like he’s going to be playing dad to us. Plus, his parents already know about the baby. Not really at all relevant to the story. It’s just interesting the ridiculous ways the divorce/marriage culture is.

Edit: just to add, It’s been 10 years at this point. My point in sharing was to point out how weird things can be in Japan regarding dating/marriage with divorced people, especially with kids

Responses
    Sac of ramen noodles November 21, 2023 10:23 pm

    thats a little bizarre I don't mean to shit on your mother's man buttttt he's not okay with marrying her due to the fact that she already has 3 previous kids but he's okay with getting her pregnant and being the father of her child, even tho she already has 3 kids??? LMFAOOAOAOA yea ok.....if u ask me he should put his big boy pants on but hey whatever ig, sorry if I was rude and overstepped

    whalien November 21, 2023 11:59 pm
    thats a little bizarre I don't mean to shit on your mother's man buttttt he's not okay with marrying her due to the fact that she already has 3 previous kids but he's okay with getting her pregnant and being th... Sac of ramen noodles

    Nah you’re fine. Exactly what you said is why it’s so ridiculous. She not with him anymore lmao She dumped him when he said he didn’t wanna get married

    ChunsaNinja March 26, 2024 8:30 am

    im asking just bec im curious, but why he need approval of his parents to get married?
    if he's a full adult with kids, its bec his parents support him monetary? i mean, why his parents thinking is more important than his partner feelings? o.ó

    whalien March 26, 2024 7:45 pm
    im asking just bec im curious, but why he need approval of his parents to get married? if he's a full adult with kids, its bec his parents support him monetary? i mean, why his parents thinking is more importan... ChunsaNinja

    It’s just cultural. Has nothing to do with him relying on his parents for money. The things people will do to please their parents sometimes

    Sac of ramen noodles March 26, 2024 11:43 pm
    Nah you’re fine. Exactly what you said is why it’s so ridiculous. She not with him anymore lmao She dumped him when he said he didn’t wanna get married whalien

    YAYYYYY