Poor MC

Wait till you see the raws, I hate MC now.

Lol trauma doesn't excuse traumatizing other people with your behavior though. "It's not his fault" is an explanation for the behavior but not a good excuse. Mc is still accountable for his behavior

Exactly. MC knew what he was doing and regret it, the thing is he still did it so he’s wrong for that.

I'm not saying he should be excused, I'm just saying that there ARE reasonings behind wtv he did or will do. It's not like he did it to be a bad person or for funnies, he did it as a coping mechanism. Hurt ppl hurt ppl (again no excuse for it) but I don't think the MC should get hate on just coz he grew up in an abusive household

Cheating is not a coping mechanism. I don’t hate the MC because he grew up in an abusive household, that’s irrelevant, I hate that he cheated several times. By your logic, ML would have cheated if he was hurt and it’s his coping mechanism. Reminder: ML was cheated on in his past relationship but he didn’t cheat on MC.

Cheating is a choice. MC is a bad partner for that, not necessarily a bad person, but bad partner.

And sorry if I sound rude btw! Not meant any harm here.
Also I just want ML to find someone better. And MC get therapy before getting into another relationship and hurting someone.

Haha, nah u don't sound rude, don't worry about it!! And yea I agree he isn't a good partner (homie DEF needs therapy before starting anything new), I was talking more about hating him for a mistake(s) he made coz he genuinely doesn't know another way (like hating his mistakes is one thing but hating him is a lil extreme from my point of view)

Also I wasn't saying his coping mechanism is to cheat, his coping mechanism (from what I've gathered so far) is to go to ppl who seem to support him on way or another and doing wtv they tell him to do, coz again, he was conditioned that way as a kid. His abusive household IS relevant when it explains why he is how he is

But this is just my thought process, obvi not everyone is gonna agree and that's totally fair, I just think the MC deserves a lil more empathy

Alright thank you!

It doesn’t matter if it was a mistake he regretted. He still chose to sleep with the black haired dude at first while he was with ML. Even after ML found out, he continued to sleep with that dude. Then woke up again and cried to himself. He keeps repeating the mistake. I feel bad for him but I can’t like him either.

Honestly I only read from ch 50 and on so idk much about his abusive household but I’m also from an abusive household, mainly physical and mental to the point I struggle with clinical depression, childhood ptsd, and anxiety disorder, etc. But I still wouldn’t cheat, in fact I happen to treasure my partner more out of fear they’d leave me and that I fear I’ll be like my family members who barely showed affection, I want to make my partner happy so I feel happy, I show through actions than words though because I’m not good at communicating verbally. I think what he did (cheating) is not caused by his trauma, it’s more of what he chose to do out of insecurity and bad relationships, of course the root of it all is his abusive household that caused him to be mentally weak but still not justified at all. He’s still shitty for that.

He’s not stupid. Just a bit mentally weak. Doesn’t mean we mentally weak people are stupid. I don’t get how he thinks having sex with someone who cheated on him is good way to resolve his insecurities. MC was hurt when he found out black haired guy cheated on him, yet he did the same thing and did it again.

I’m sure he knew of other ways to handle that, even if he didn’t resolve his insecurities. Resolving to cheating is just not it, it’s cruel and disgusting act to your partner who cherishes you. I also cried during the sex scenes between MC and the black haired dude while the ML didn’t know. I hate the black haired dude the most though.

The author makes this unrealistic sometimes, and they seem to have fetishize cheating lmao judging by their other works.

I don’t have a single support in my family or friend I can call home, but MC had a whole relationship with someone that loves him and instead of at least trying to communicate even if he couldn’t, he proceeded to cheat. That’s disgusting I’m sorry, it’s enough to hate someone for that. I don’t think he’s a bad person because he clearly regrets it, but he’s still a bad partner and needs intense therapy for all the shit he went through.

And I just want the fucking ML to be in peace with someone else that will equally cherish him without disloyalty.