HUH?!!

She didn’t have an option

Not to take him in
Plus I’m sure she wouldn’t have known the kind of response this guilt would bring out of her at that point
As it slowly unfolded and she came to realise, she couldn’t possibly leave him then.

She didn’t have an option not to take him in*

Um yeah she did it's called adoption if no other family member (which from how many there were the funeral seems kind of improbable) could have taken him in she is a fully grown adult with a fully grown seemingly working brain don't make excuses for her the instant she realized that she was not equipped to handle Tsuguya she should've given him up abandoning him would've been better then treating him the way she did

Absolutely agree. About what she should’ve done.

I’m not saying I support her actions (I’m reading the manga a second time to connect with Tsuguya-chan’s past life again), but I get them. Like it’s all playing out like a reel in my head, y’know…

The mind is a real asshole. Oh god. The truest asshole.

All shitty actions start from a screwed up mind.
And hearts suffer, and even if not now, then, in the next life.

Ah I’ve got to stop thinking about this lol it’s getting very real

I never would’ve guessed if the aunt’s baggage hadn’t opened up, that there’s more to it than our child suffering alone, it’s… even more absurd.

It's true. To the child, it's the knowledge of your parents never coming back, but to the Mum.. she has to live with the guilt that she cause this child to lose his parents. Which is by no means her fault.
She had a choice to love him instead, to nurture him as her sister would have, but guilt can make you do crazy things. And in her mind, she doesn't have the right to make this child smile, laugh, or feel loved, because it was supposed to be given to him by his parents.
She still "loves" him in her own way.
She just feels that if she shows the child love, the child will also love her, a love of a son to a mother. A mother he lost forever.
So, personally, she redeemed herself to me.

HARRY POTTER SPOILER IF YOU HAVENT WATCHED IT YET ! ! !

Take professor Snape for example. Harry always thought the professor hated him because all he ever showed Harry was contempt.
Little did he know that Snape cared for him because he loved Harry's mother deeply. And maybe kept him at arms length because Harry had his mother's eyes. To the bitter end, Snape cared for Harry. And Harry understood that seeing that he named one of his children after Snape.

Yeah…
It’s true.

And I’m really waiting for sum little ducklings to be born *here* to these two sillies like born to Harry, Ginny, Ron and Hermione there *happy blush smile face hehe*

Hell no that bitch can go fuck herself she had other options it’s not as if she were alone in everything there was never any reason for Tsuguya’s life to end up the it did and if she was some type of way over his parents death the ultimate show of “love” would’ve been letting another another family member or put him up for adoption years and years of emotional abuse from both her and her husband all because she could only think about herself imma stay hating until I forget about this story

It’s unto each what they would do if she did what she did and affected any of us.
You might want to cut her off forever. Someone else might want to distant, but not mind meeting again when it feels right (if it does ever feel right.)
So I get what you’re saying.

I’m sure she regrets not doing things the right way, or she might really regret it now or later.

Have you watched attack on titan? I haven’t
But this situation reminds me… of it…

Not spoiling tho.

Maybe the reason this bothers me a lot is because I have a job that involves taking care of children and the idea of a child getting hurt due to the selfishness of the adults around them really grinds my gears (and yes, I have watched attack on Titan)

Ah my reply was that puppy eyes something emoji lmao

And I mean. For your job, your passion is totally necessary *return of the disappearing puppy eyes emoji*

It’s just that if we can come to understand a situation best (like Asanaga sensei,) understand a parent the best we can (like the aunt’s hypothetical therapist,) and understand the child and the child’s heart, then we could find a way other than to cut the parent(s) and children off from each other’s lives. Some things could be rearranged by a third party, like a mechanic, so a bicycle functions anew on both of its wheels. At other times you’d have to toss it out if the tires or any additional support to the tires still cannot make the bicycle function.

Scrap “therapist,” replace with “psychologist” lmao

All I can say is: she is wrong in every level.
Truly isn't her fault they died, but since she is so sure it is : it's her duty and responsability to make that child happy. That's how you make amends. How "it's my fault" have become "I must make this child miserable because I don't deserve to make him happy"? Guilt or no guilt, no one should make a child suffer.
Also, she promissed her sister she would take care of her child until she was back. Since she died ans couldn't ne back, that promise is for at least until the child becomes an adult and she broke that promise.

But we are dwelling too much on the aunt. The uncle is the worst and he should spend some years in jail

I focus on the aunt more because it was most likely solely her decision to take Tsuguya in. I'm sure the uncle just went along with it because it's what his wife wanted and he might have felt the barest bit of pity. So my thoughts are that if the aunt spent less time wallowing in self pity she would've been able to control her husband. But yes I whole heartedly put the blame on him as well because he is horrible and deserves the very worst life can give him.

I agree. I just wanted more people blaming him because he was fighting her. He might have known or figured out her guilt issues and did nothing to help. On the contrary, he made things much worse demanding more of her and verbaly abusing Tsu as we saw. The guy is the worst as a father and as a husband and as a human.

Exactly. Raising children isn't a job for just one person even if you're a stay at home parent the spouse still has a duty to help out when and where they can. There needs to be a balance. The uncle couldn't find that balance and ended putting so much on his wife that when she was out of commission he couldn't even care for his child on his own. In the US that type of relationship is a divorce waiting to happen.