Dokja literally thinks she killed his father- i don't think your and dokja's families are similar ngl
Like don't take this the wrong way, but if you loved your entire life with a mother who you think killed your father, i don't think I'd trust her either
That's not all.. There's more. He hates her because he suffered because of her actions. I think Dokja talked about this with Sangah before. The story of a prisoner which went viral. Maybe she did it with his best interest in mind but he suffered being called the murderer's son, was bullied, wasn't taken care of properly by his supposed guardians. It's sad that they sacrifice so much for each other and don't communicate properly but it's also true that they suffered because of each other.
So like you said he doesn't deserve her love. Similarly, she doesn't deserve Dokja's love.
They are past a point where they could've loved each other.
Their past history is completely different from most parent and children, so to hate the mother or Kim Dokja based on one's own experiences with their parents seems pretty odd to me honestly
I don't think I said that type of similarity. What I was saying is, I just see myself in Dokja whenever he talks like that to his mother and that's what makes me hate him. Yes surely he thinks she killed his father, but he does knows that the father was abusive so that not the only reason to hate her. He understands she did it in order to protect him, he understands she sacrificed her whole life for Kim Dokja, but to him, who was just not mature enough or just not that age to handle his own life on his own. To him, it feels he was left all alone, and then Sookyung wrote the book which made him hate her more. I did said I understand Kim Dokja., it is just my biasness towards how much mothers usually sacrifice towards their kids and kids are just being ungrateful. Kim Dokja was not ungrateful but he was rude and never tried to understand his mother's pov. He might have known she was hurting but to him after that book, he thought she made fun of their whole life.
I don't want ppl to misunderstand my words here. My mom worked and sacrificed so much for me and my sibling, probably my biasness comes from that side, from my own experiences. That's it. To me Kim Dokja is so complei of a character it feels wrong to hate him (• ▽ •;) because he is just so relatable. His escapism was what I did too when I was his age because i couldn't handle certain things that was going around me. Books and webtoons kept from breaking apart. I hope you understand. Have a good day/night!!!
It is, isnt it haha (• ▽ •;)
I understand where you're coming from but I just wanna say that I feel like hating Dokja for that cause is like invalidating the pain he went through because of his mother's actions. Don't worry though, they'll be more upfront in the future. Both mother and son are so similar to each other it's painful. These cunning, sacrificial duo (shaking my head) ╮(￣▽￣)╭
Ik don't worry I have read the novel like so many times already and i never invalidated his pain. I hate this part of him as I see myself in him. Thats what I'm saying if I was not clear before what I'm saying is this
Naruhodo.. Like KDJ hating KNW.. Lol
I feel that, if anything, its just a defensive mechanism from years of loneliness he faced. its much easier to project emotions to her as an individual versus the whole world. Even if she did kill his father out of protection for KDJ, he probably is taking out his angers at her, people in his life that mistreated him etc. in a reasonably pissed manner. I honestly finds that this adds a lot more psychological depth to his character even. Additionally due to the high quality of this stories the emotions and conflicts feel so human and intense, which we can also see in this chapter with how he holds emotions that could be tense, sour, and defensive. All things considered, especially considering that we aren’t far into the full story yet, I personally think this development makes sense so far!
This it totally makes sense!!!!
Not gonna lie but i really hate Kim Dokja in this arc. Like the subarc. He doesn't deserves Sookyung's any love. Ik he was traumatized, I just know but he was damn way too rude to her. The person who made him what he is, he was insulting a mother who did things out of love for her child and I will never forgive Kim Dokja who always acted out of spite whenever it came to her. Maybe because i kind of see myself in Kim Dokja, just a bit whenever he acts this way, reminds me of how im rude to my own mother, and it scares me? Ppl will call me sheltered kid but I'm not at all one, my mother has gone thru so many sacrifices and it hurts that i wasn't able to help her out, it hurts so badly. And theni see this guy being rude and remember my memories whenever I fought with my mom and told her so many of the same things this guy thinks or says. When reading this (like for the nth time) I went to sleep while crying. And it is always like that.